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Right now in America there are over 2 million couples secretly struggling with homosexuality in their marriages. Are you one of them? Are you having intimacy issues? Are you suspicious about your husband’s late night activities? Or are you oblivious to a problem that could be putting your health and the livelihood of your family at risk? Don’t tell yourself that you’re simply being paranoid without taking a closer look!
Homosexuality can pop up at any time during a long-term relationship. Your spouse may have been experimenting with the “gay” lifestyle even before you met. Maybe he’s just using you as unwitting cover as he seeks playmates in the heterosexual world. For these types, the shame of being “outed” is so great that they will go to extremes to hide their lustful activities, even tricking a woman to marry them to appear normal in society. Sometimes it’s the nervous family who has rushed a young man into marriage out of a fear that his secret will be exposed. For others, homosexuality can appear later in life when men crave some escape from the monotony of careers and home life. Same-sex experimentation is also connected to drug or alcohol abuse. Crystal meth and other narcotics are proven to lower inhibitions and to drive people to take incredible risks to feed their habits.
For the wife unsure about her husband’s proclivities, the most important thing is to first confirm your suspicions. Drawing on the expertise of spiritual and medical professionals, Christwire has put together a list of 15 commonly-accepted characteristics of men struggling with homosexuality within a marriage:
1) Secretive late night use of cellphones and computers
Porn addiction is closely associated with homosexuality and a secretive nature implies he’s trying to hide something from you. Be on the lookout for a man who doesn’t want to web surf or answer phone calls in your presence. Texting is another favorite trick used by adulterers. For the sake of trust, a married couple should share everything, including phone logs, email accounts, chat friends and website histories.
2) Looks at other men in a flirtatious way
When you’re out in public, does he spend too much time looking at other men? Is he fond of winking at people? Does he get visibly upset when someone does not return a compliment about his physical appearance?
3) Feigning attention in church and prayer groups
Have you noticed a lack of interest in spiritual issues? Does it ever seem as if he’s just using church as an excuse to spend time around young men? Does he volunteer to mentor in all-male groups?
4) Overly fastidious about his appearance and the home
Natural men have a certain amount of grit about them. They sweat and they smell. Homosexuals often abhor this sort of thing and will also be incredibly particular about the cleanliness of the home. Does your man tweeze his eyebrows, trim his pubic hairs or use face moisturizers? Is he picky about brand name shampoos? Does he spend more time getting ready for a night out than you do?
5) Gym membership but no interest in sports
Gay men use the gym as a place to socialize and to have secret liaisons in the bathrooms. They like to work out their bodies without the competition of sports play. Afterward, they use the showers and steam rooms to engage in sexual activity beyond the prying eyes of women. If your man returns from the gym too exhausted to talk or have sex, that is a worrisome sign.
6) Clothes that are too tight and too “trendy”
Gay men don’t need words to communicate their availability for sex “hook ups.” They silently broadcast the news by showing off their lean, hard bodies in designer clothing labels. If your husband owns skinny jeans and looks at his buttocks in the mirror or if he wears an inordinate number of small-sized t-shirts, it is probably worthwhile to pay more attention to his private activities.
7) Strange sexual demands
Fetishism is a sign that a man is seeking a harder thrill beyond the normal intimacy of heterosexual relations. The woman may not appeal to the deep desires that are coming to the surface as the marriage drags on. If there is a sudden interest in sodomy, sadomasochism, lubricants, role-play, sex toys or other non-traditional intercourse methods, this is clearly an indication of deep emotional abnormalities.
More interested in the men than the women in pornographic films
Pornography is a dangerous element in any marriage but there are many Christians who feel watching it does add something to their sexual lives. If you have gone down this road and find that your man perks up at the sight of the men in these sorts of videos, you should be concerned. If he selects films because of specific male actors, this is an obvious sign that he is suffering from a crisis of ego and desire.
9) Travels frequently to big cities or Asia
Some husbands will spend a great deal of money traveling far from home to hide their deplorable same-sex actions. Big cities offer indulgence of every kind. From gay bars and clubs to prostitutes and sex bathhouses, a man seeking encounters can find them easily if he’s so inclined. Is there ever really a good excuse for a husband to visit Thailand or San Francisco without his wife?
10) Too many friendly young male friends
Someone who makes an extra effort to surround themselves with younger men should raise concerns in any community. If this is the case with your husband, ask yourself if he prefers their company to that of women. Do they touch each other or embrace in long hugs? Do they exchange expensive, personal gifts like scarves or cologne?
11) Sassy, sarcastic and ironic around his friends
A man who is secretly engaged in homosexual activity with others may exhibit feminine qualities when they get together in a group. In a sense, he has “let his hair down” and this will be seen in excessive back talk and speaking with one’s hands.
12) Love of pop culture
It’s quite common for young men to enjoy the science fiction end of popular culture, but when your husband becomes overly obsessed with romantic and feminine shows, that is cause for alarm. Gossip websites, Glee and The Golden Girls are three well-documented icons of the gay movement that genuine heterosexual men avoid.
13) Extroverted about his bare chest in public
Does he go shirtless in the back yard or at picnics when other men are around? Does he wear a speedo at the beach? Does it seem like he’s purposely standing right in the middle of a crowd to show off his chest and arm muscles, peppering people with questions about how strong he looks? He may be craving physical affirmation from other men and desperately looking for hints of shared desires in those around him.
14) Sudden heavy drinking
Sometimes people dealing with an unbearable emotional issue like homosexuality will turn to alcohol to hide their distress. Does your man disappear on drinking binges for long hours without answering his cellphone? Is there a strange odor about him when he returns, some strange mix of cigarettes and gel? Does he cry frequently?
15) Ladies, have you dated men in the past who turned out to be gay?
This is an important question to ask yourself when your marriage starts to have problems. Statistics have shown that women who have encountered gay men romantically in the past are the most likely to repeat this mistake in future relationships. If you answered yes, you should ask yourself whether you’re honestly looking for a man or just a shopping companion. Is sharing gossip more important to you than raising children? Ultimately, it’s a question of getting your priorities straight!
ADDITIONAL RESOURCES FOR WORRIED WIVES:
- My Spouse Struggles with Homosexuality
- Top signs your husband is gay
- Does my husband have the right to continue a gay lifestyle and marriage to me?
- Gay Husband Check List
- Is My Husband Gay?
- The McGreevey Effect: Is Your Husband Gay?
- I Think My Boyfriend is Gay
- Is my husband gay? Clues to look for!!!
- I Discovered My Husband Was Gay
- How I found out my husband is gay and why I begged him to stay
10:06 pm
I like how you did no research and linked to other hate-filled areas or sites that talk about weird as hell sex toys.
Keep up the retardation Stevie! You make yourself look like a bigger fool with each post! God knows that maybe 10% of what you said was right, and I’m talking about just generally, not that 10% of this dribble supports your points.
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10:23 pm
I agree with The Comedian. So much rubbish, hearsay and misdirection it would be amusing if it weren’t for the fact simpletons might believe it.
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All my references are available if you have a specific issue you’re concerned about.Thanks for your interest!
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Hey Stephenson,
You are a friggin idiot. I’d write something sarcastic but then I guess you’d think I’m gay
I recommend you consult a doctor immediately
Tom
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3:48 pm
Oh, the people that read Perez-Hilton are arriving. Welcome! Be sure to check out some of the other articles. Search “Harry potter” and “sesame street.” You are in for a treat.
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How typical of the childish and paranoid mindset of some many of you left wingers today. Why do you people have an allergy to respectful discourse and anything that has to do with the importance of morality in our culture?
“If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believeth.” –Mark 9:23.
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1:49 pm
You will be pleased then to hear, that I discovered this “article” in the funny pages of a danish newspaper.
I feel sorry for those of you who suffer under being fellow countrymen to people of such moronic ignorance.
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11:21 am
I must ask you people once again to please refrain from spamming and attacking this website to try to shut it down. By doing so, you are violating my right to FREE SPEECH as protected by the CONSTITUTION OF THE UNITED STATES. We also have something in this country called “FREEDOM OF RELIGION” which you people seem to forget. It is values such as these which have made America great. We would never have survived and prospered as a nation were it not for the moral guidance and values of our citizen and all of these insults and harsh words and clicking and whatnot is an attempt to shout me down. Furthermore, when it results in a DENIAL OF SERVICE attack (DNS), this is a crime. Once again, this is a Christian website and if you are not a Chrisitan and only coming here to spread hostility or make death threats I must ask you kindly to STOP NOW. You people are nothing more than bullies and it’s disgusting to me the vast amount of hate your liberal sorts have deep within your heart, ready to attack anyone they find who is courageous to stand up for his values. Your “homosexual” activists have done nothing but spread hate and fear and are encouraging nothing less than a genocide upon real marriage in this country.
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5:14 pm
The author wrote:
How typical of the childish and paranoid mindset of some many of you left wingers today. Why do you people have an allergy to respectful discourse and anything that has to do with the importance of morality in our culture?
As I have read these comments, I’ve noticed something. The “childish” comments and personal attacks have come FROM YOU. Exhibit 1? Your comment I reproduced here. I know nothing of your politics. I don’t care. I will say this: If you want a serious discourse or debate, perhaps you should write something serious.
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9:38 pm
“How typical of the childish and paranoid mindset of some many of you left wingers today.”
Okay, re-read your article and recall what you said the signs were of your husband being gay. As a reminder, they include using your cell phone or computer at night, travel to big cities or Asia, and too much working out. These seem more like signs of having a lot of work (travelling to big cities or Asia for work as well as using the computer or phone to get in touch with the office), love of travel (travelling to big cities or Asia for fun), or wanting to keep in shape (working out). This is a childish and paranoid view of marriage and of spousal relations. Aren’t you the childish and paranoid one, then?
“Why do you people have an allergy to respectful discourse and anything that has to do with the importance of morality in our culture?”
As one of “you people” a.k.a a social liberal, I would be very happy to discuss morality. I think it’s terrible to lie, cheat, kill, steal, etc. However, I do not think that being gay is wrong. I will discuss this with you at length if you would like to talk about it. I will counter all of your arguments as to why it’s wrong (if you have any other than “it just is” or “a book written by some old guys who lived in a completely different time and place from us says it is”). Let’s chat. Why is being gay wrong?
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3:28 pm
This article made my day. Upon reading this, I had to check my URL to make sure this wasn’t a satirical article that had been published in The Onion. The content contained in this amazing reading experience needs to fall into the lap of the same person who directed the movie “But I’m a Cheerleader.”
Congratulations, you have further solidified my belief that most right wing Christians have not one ounce of intelligence; and are just begging for someone to come along with “special” cups of Kool-aid. Is it tropical punch?! My favorite.
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11:49 am
People in the know serve purple Kool-aid.
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9:43 am
I think you mean grape Flavor Aid.
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11:36 am
Hi, I have a passage I’d like to share with you and everyone else who is lost. There is so much love in Christianity, I pray you open your heart up to His message today. Do you know that He gave his own Son to die for YOUR sins? Do you know how incredible it is that you can have a personal relationship with the Creator of the universe, that above all inanimate things on this earth, He will love YOU more? God bless my friends and welcome.
“Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” –Isaiah 40:18-31.
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To Stephen.
I am a Catholic and even I can see the major flaws in this article. This article is not based in fact. It is spreading fear and doubt to married couples, especially the wives. If your husband works for the Peace Corps and has to travel to impoversihed nations isn’t it more likely he’s doing his job, rather than indulging in homosexuality. Personally I find this article to perpetuate the idea that homosexuality is enticing and nearly impossibly to resist. Which is, of course, ridiculous. You are either homosexual or you are not. If you choose to fight it or ‘turn straight’ then that’s a personal choice. To think that every straight person is struggling with the temptation of homosexuality is preposterous. I’ve never had urges to be with other women. And I’m quite sure I never will.
The best route is to be honest with your spouse. (and watching porn doesn’t make you gay… just saying)
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Mr. Billings, I would like to thank you for this hour of very entertaining (and by entertaining I mean hilarious) reading. Please note that I will not, in the following paragraphs, be debating the “facts” of your article, but addressing the article in itseld as well as your comments on this forum.
First of all, I am amazed at the level of bigotry and hate you show here, not only towards homosexual men, but towards anyone who disagrees with your opinion. Yes, I do write “opinion”, because I consider your article to be a text of opinion rather than an investigative piece. It is based on personal opinion, on stereotypes, on a limited sample group and on other texts of opinion. By limited sample group, I mean that you are taking situations lived by a limited number of women who found out their husbands are gay and you are generalizing this in a very erroneous way.
Concerning your comment that “It’s not my fault that some of you loons decided to gather together to harass me and shout down my free speech”, you are claiming your right to free speech, but denying it to everyone else who commented on your article. You cannot dismiss what people are writing in response to your post simply because you do not like it. Just because they disagree with you does not mean that they are ganging up on you to take away your free speech. You claimed in one of your earlier comments that you were hoping to have a sensible discussion with others and yet here you are, calling the readers and commenters loons. I agree with you that some of the comments from readers may have harsh or un-called for, but I also agree with the readers that you are not a serious investigative journalist.
Your original intent may have been (and I am not even sure that this was really your intent) to help some women who are experiencing problems in their marriage, but all you ended up doing is writing a stereotyping article that is hurtful, hateful and un-Christian.
I was born and raised a Christian, and although I am not a practicing Christian, I do know that Christianity is about loving your neighbour and I am afraid that you do do even respect that tenets of your religion seeing as you have shown a great deal of hate (whether underlying or open)in both your article and your comments. Loving your neighbour does not mean changing your neighbour in order for him to fit your idea, or a group’s idea, of who that person should be. You ruin your own credibility by falling prey to the same shortcomings you accuse the commenters of having (e.g. name calling such as paranoid, childish, loons). I would also like to add that, as a fellow Christian, I think you should be ashamed of yourself for using the Bible in some of your comments to justify your hateful words. You should also consider that culture, and Culture, is not a matter of religion, and that just because your religion, or the heads of your church, or the main book of your faith state something, it does not make it a fact. Religion deals with faith and belief and they should not be used as justification for your actions. You hide behing the Bible like a child hides behind his parents’ legs when he’s done something bad.
All of this makes me very happy that your post is being re-distributed everywhere as a source of ridicule. At the same time, I am not happy that you are getting all of this free publicity, since I have a feeling that this is really what you were looking for when you posted your article. To me, you are irrelevant both as an “investigative journalist” and as a writer, and you should not be enjoying this much publicity for an article that, if it were in print, wouldn’t be worth the paper it would have been printed on.
You can comment all you want on this response, but keep in mind that I also have a right to free speech, and this includes speaking up against articles, and comments from the writer of said article, if I feel like it. Next time you decide to write an investigative piece, you should really do some real investigating work instead of reading a few texts of opinion with a religious flavor and using them as sources in order to inflict your bigotry upon the world.
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2:57 pm
Mr. Billings… unfortunately you have no right to free speech in the private sector. The Government is not trying to shut you down… you are merely dealing with the responses of the people your retarded article has angered.
Your First Amendment right to free speech only protects you from the GOVERNMENT!
It does not protect you however from private persons responses, it does not protect you from having your web site shut down by the web host, it does not protect you from having all the advertising dollars that fund that host pulled by advertisers that do not wish to have their good company’s name displayed on the same site as your hate speech and other garbage (or bad satire… I’m not sure which)
Just like Laura Schlesinger… she tried to say that her right to free speech was being violated because she was taken off the air by her employer, and because all her advertisers pulled their adds… this is not a violation of anyone’s right to free speech… you have only the right to be free from reprisal from the government for your speech… you do not however enjoy the right to be free from the consequences for your ridiculous opinions and hate speech.
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6:00 pm
I’m sorry but you have only the slimmest grasp of the situation here. The government is not the only group that can deny free speech (and thereby violate the Constitution) in the US.
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Have you read the other articles? The authors on this site may or may not believe what they say, but it is a trolls’ nest, don’t fall for it.
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5:22 pm
Then please list the sources you used to come up with this article.
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9:14 am
You know the last thing to tell if they’re gay? They completely homophobic and probably a republican! Oh, and they sit around all day thinking and writing about what it would be like to be gay. You need a serious wake up call my friend. Take a look around you.
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6:04 pm
this is not even homophobic
this is stupid.
This is a lack of respect towards Jesus spread of love ideas.
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3:53 pm
Research? Did you check your references?
Did you do any research that didn’t include Focus on the Family and other Right Wing special interest groups?
I don’t think you did.
“Debate” is more than just allowing contrarian opinion to have equal time, doofus.
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10:52 pm
You know as a transgender male i spend a lot of time with other young people who are gay, bi, lesbian and transgender. Not one of these people is stereotypical. They are thin and fat, have short hair and long hair, fashionable and not fashionable, and all of them are just kids who are looking for friendly love and acceptance, same as me. When I read stuff like this, its just really sad that some people will go so far to pull back our positive steps forward in the world and try to stop people from accepting us as we deserve. In some situations I would say that I hate christians and christianity, but perhaps this is a little harsh. I hate people who hold and distribute opinions like this. I used to be a devout Catholic, until I heard a disgusting program on the radio by Focus on the Family which said the most disgraceful things about homosexuals. As I was a couple of years younger then and had only just discovered that I am attracted to women, I was absolutely crushed. I felt rejected my the church and my god, it was like a kick in the face. And now I have no interest in religion what so ever. What I’m getting at is that you and your people carrying on with all your bull actually destroy more faith than you creates… at least among the sane.
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11:24 pm
Steve
You made a comment assigning criticism to “left-wingers”. With all due respect, as a disciple of Jesus Christ for over 30 years, I find that sort of stereotyping more reflective of partisan, deceptive politics – and, you and I both know who the Father of lies (deception) is. May I suggest some maturity here and leave the right wing talking points out of the Kingdom of God – Jesus has had His name dragged through the mud far too many times due to the this insanity.
BTW – I am dropping out of my all men’s mentoring group to avoid any confusion – however, I am finding it difficult to convince the women to accept me into their group. Any suggestions here as to where to go??
Best,
In Christ,
Aner
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Mr. Billings, I would like to take another few lines on this forum to ask whether you considered the other side of the medal? Why not write about marriages broken because the woman is a homosexual (a lesbian, if you will). I took a couple of minutes, which seems to be about the same time you took, to think and re-write your article for the husbands… Here’s what I came up with:
For the husband unsure about his wife’s proclivities, the most important thing is to first confirm your suspicions. Drawing on the popular stereotypes, “Astonished” has put together a list of 15 commonly-accepted characteristics of women struggling with homosexuality within a marriage:
1) Secretive late night use of saws, drills and hammers (or any kind of tool/power tool)
2) Looks at other men in a disgusted way
3) Feigning attention in church and prayer groups (original line)
4) Lack of interest in her appearance and the home
5) Membership at the local hardware store or car show
6) Clothes that are too loose, lots of plaid and a mullet
7) Lack of sexual demands or abusive use of sexual toys (i.e. lack of use of the husband’s body)
9) Rarely gets away from the house, spends most of her time in the garage or tool shed
10) Too many unfriendly masculine female friends
11) Masculine, aggressive and very loud around her friends
12) Hate of pop culture
13) Extroverted and harsh about men with bare chests in public
14) Sudden heavy drinking (same)
15) Gentlemen, have you dated women in the past who turned out to be gay?
I can imagine most readers being offended by this list, and I agree with them since it is solely based on stereotypes of the “butch lesbian”, like Mr. Billings’ article is solely based on the stereotypes of the “flaming queen” or the gay “muscle man” and not taking into consideration the wide variety of groups within the male gay community, from the twink to the bear and from the young to the old. There is no research involved in either list, only a very bad use of the popular view of homosexuals, which is just wrong: plain and simple.
I would also like to ask you, Mr. Billings, why you felt you had to write an article about male homosexuality, rather than one about homosexuality in a marriage, no matter the sex? I have a feeling that:
a) like a lot of double-standarded bigots, your are, secretely or not, disgusted by male homosexuality, but very happily turned on by female sexuality (probably even masturbating at the thought even though masturbation is also a sin).
b) you are a self-loathing, closetted gay men who feels he needs the Lord to save him from himself for his sinful thoughts.
Either way, you have a lot of work to do on yourself and should really consult with a specialist other than just your priest. No offense meant to priests, I’m simply stating that they are not the only resource out there for people who need/want help.
I hope next time you decide to write an “investigative article”, you will take some time to consider all sides of a topic.
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11:24 am
I was thinking about this topic for a second article but after your response maybe it will be best to simply print it up offline and distribute it my church.
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To Astonished,
Thank you for your posts. They really are well-argued and superbly expressed. While reading that “article” I instantly had a sinking feeling, thinking: “Do Americans actually think like this?” It’s really scary.
I am a gay man in Canada, and it is posts like this that make Americans seem like uneducated red-necks. It reminds me of the ignorance that is being broadcasted in Uganda about homosexuality, where gay men are portrayed by their desire to eat feces from another man’s anus:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=euXQbZDwV0w
Anyhow, you (Astonished) have restored some of my faith that many Americans do not share these ridiculous views. Your counterargument about the gay women in marriages was so well done that I choked on my wine. It was well-appreciated by me and some of my friends. So thanks again.
To Stephenson:
You are one self-righteous, ugly motherf&%$#r…trust me, no gay man would even look at you. Gay does NOT mean DESPERATE.
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12:22 am
That was well thought out, thank you for taking the time to write this reply. I realized also, especially after reading your response, that this article is not only filled with hateful homophobic remarks, but it’s also very sexist as well.
Some on this list could apply to anyone cheating on their partner, such as the first item on the list (I’ve lived through it). However, others such as 4 and 5 are very idiotic stereotypes of what a man should be according to some people’s narrow-mindedness. Plenty of men will help out around the home, and most normal men don’t stiink, unless they’ve been in the gym or something. There is nothing wrong with a man that takes care of himself; not all women are your mother! Trust me on this, women love men who who smell nice. It’s a growing trend, and that’s why you see an increasing number of commercial advertising body care products not just for men, but manly men (ala Old Spice).
There are also many straight men that have no interest in sports, but go to the gym to stay healthy. This sort of goes back to 4 on the list. Men that take of themselves, are healthy and generally look good attract the ladies.
Frankly, the author of the article needs to take his head out of his ass. These comments are not just liberal whack-jobs, but a mix of christians and conservatives as well. Basically, NO ONE agrees with him.
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5:04 pm
I will take you up on the offer of references.
Let’s start with #1 on the list – Secretive late night use of cellphones and computers
While I believe late night use of cell phones & computers may be an indication or an unfaithful spouse (male or female), I am curious so see the study what would indicate this is tied to sexual orientation. In this same item, you allege porn addiction to be “closely associated” with homosexuality. Let’s see that study while you are at it.
Waiting eagerly to have a sensitive discussion of the data.
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10:38 am
Hmmm… It has been a week and no references yet. One would think someone who claims to be the old ugly white male Oprah would keep his data in order and easily accessible.
Unless there is no data……
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11:03 pm
wow, i seriously hope this is a joke site….i like how the guy claims to have “references” to support his claims but doesn’t site any….my best guess is that he is the reference point….it’s like the “he who smelled it dealt it” rule…history proves that homophobic conservatives are usually the biggest closet queens
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11:09 pm
Yep…the smeller’s the feller.
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8:54 am
Hi folks, as the son of God I assume you don’t mind me popping in.
Just wanted to say that Stephenson Billings is clearly gay.
I think he protests too much!
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2:13 am
Ah, uhm, this is all a really dry joke, isn’t it? I’m not being snarky, it just reads like dry satire. Really smart dry satire. :shrug:
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2:24 am
Oh I got one! Prove to me you’re not a gay comedian.
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5:35 pm
This is way too ignorant.
I’m surprised you actually know how to write.
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5:40 pm
This is RIDICULOUS
and way too ignorant.
HAHAHAHAA
PATHETIC
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12:54 pm
i love how your own comments are rated so low that they wont be shown on you OWN PAGE!!! this is pure epic… XDDD
oh, and you talk so much bulshit this isnt normal…
im gay and im metal addicted so i hate the popculture but that doesnt mean anything…
so im a highly educated person, i studied in germany and have 5 times the money of you i guess…
i studied physics and genetic biology even if im gay!
i have a familiy, a man in my age and we adopted 2 kids…
the 1. gets his abitur (in germany) in a few weeks and the other is studying medicine…
so fuck you ass hole!
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1:59 am
My favorite part was looking at the Author’s Facebook page.
Favorite Music: Dixie, Dolly Parton, Chopin, Wagner
Favorite Actors: Stephen Baldwin, Charlton Heston
(No favorite Actresses)
A very high number of young male friends
A “Leader of Christian Camping Trips for Hearty Teens” (Inquire within)
Oh and he’s single.
Seems like the lady doth protest too much.
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Check out Dude’s Facebook page. This is the actual description, word for word, that he uses to explain his job:
“Special Leader of Christian Camping Trips for Hearty Teens!”
Spending relaxing time in the woods with boys. Not THAT is an upstanding citizen!!!
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yeah, this has to be a spoof. very entertaining, actually.
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Actually sir, hate speech is not protected under any constitutional amendment. Your article is against the law.
Thanks,
—J
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Actually, I don’t think Stevie really needed to do any research on this one. I mean, it’s well established that he’s the resident expert in the field of closeted homosexuality.
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As a gay man who was directed to this article because it’s currently being ridiculed widely on Facebook, I would like to mention the following:
1.) I have a friend that works in the pitt for stock car racing. He’s gay. His (non-existent) wife wouldn’t know it, of course, because he’s not as stereotypical as your anachronistic thinking.
2.) NYC has a gay men’s volleyball league, gay baseball league, and gay soccer league to name a few. The participants aren’t doing it to sleep together; they’re doing it because they like sports.
3.) As a gay man, I often look at the internet late at night. It’s not because I’m cruising or watching porn (which, I quite frankly, prefer in the morning). I happen to like crossword puzzles, and they help me fall to sleep.
4.) I hate pop culture. Although the Golden Girls are pretty good…
5.) Men strutting in front of other men is a biological normality. It’s how they show virility and dominance. All species do it.
I could go on. I don’t feel that I need to.
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You go, girl! Oh, and Stephenson — you forgot one more way to tell if your husband is gay: ASK HIM.
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Yeah, asking my husband if he was gay worked out really well. He was like “d’oh! you got me!” and I was like “I knew it!” and we laughed and laughed and called all our friends and told them about our funny conversation.
Are you a moron? ASK HIM? You can’t be serious.
Oh – and while I agree that a lot of this list is ridiculous, in my experience the part about weird sexual practices is true. Seriously, if you don’t enjoy s&m or anal and your guy is going on about it? IF it’s the former, he’s gay, if it’s the latter, he’s a sadist and if it’s both he’s a gay psychopath and hide your kids hide your wife hide your husband cause he’s rapin’ everybody out here.
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You´re an idiot Anne, and sorry to say that, but it´s true..
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hide yer kids hide yer wife hide yer husband…lol very witty!
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Thank you, good Sir, for my morning giggle! This was far better than reading the weekend funnies, I assure you! I have a few points to respond to though.
1)”Porn addiction is closely associated with homosexuality and a secretive nature implies he’s trying to hide something from you.”
So, a person who enjoys porn, regardless of the reason for enjoying, and has a vrather large collection of it, is automatically gay? Interesting, Hey Ron Jeremy, did you know you were gay??
2)”Have you noticed a lack of interest in spiritual issues?”
That depends. When you say spiritual issues, are you referring only to Christian spirituality, or ALL spiritual issues?
3)”Overly fastidious about his appearance and the home.”
So a guy who is house-proud, and/or has been taught as a child to always look neat and clean of person, is automatically gay? Or a guy with a unibrow who tweezes? Seriously?
4)”Gym membership but no interest in sports.”
A guy who is interested in staying fit, but has no coordination for sports is gay. That’s what this says. That’s stupid.
5)”Clothes that are too tight and too “trendy””
So basically EVERY 15-19yr old boy is gay?
6)”If there is a sudden interest in sodomy, sadomasochism, lubricants, role-play, sex toys or other non-traditional intercourse methods, this is clearly an indication of deep emotional abnormalities.”
Say what? These are ‘non-traditional’? By what standards, the 9th century’s?
7)”Travels frequently to big cities or Asia”
OOOOHHHHH!!!! Ladies, if your Hubby is a CEO, or VP, or top Sales person in their company, be aware, they did it, not for financial, and familial, security, but so they could have the chance to have secret gay liasons!!! Because everyone loves having an affair with a person who has ruined their health to get to the top of their field and no longer has staying power to enjoy sex.
8)”Love of pop culture”
So, now it’s all guys between 16 and 32, who are gay?
9)”Extroverted about his bare chest in public
Does he go shirtless in the back yard or at picnics when other men are around? Does he wear a speedo at the beach? Does it seem like he’s purposely standing right in the middle of a crowd to show off his chest and arm muscles, peppering people with questions about how strong he looks?”
Well, that does explain Jersey Shore…. J/K But basically you are saying almost all guys with a strong European background are gay….
10)”Sudden heavy drinking”
So, alcoholism equals gay? Really? You are positive about that?
Dude, get your head out of your ass and try talking to real experts. I’m sure if you took the time to look up psychologists, or therapists, in your area, they would all tell you that you; ” are a closet homosexual that is terrified at exposing himself to potential ridicule”; and that’s why you have the amazing discriminatory hate-campaign against homosexuals happening.
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11:21 am
Hi, you do make some interesting points and as I have stated many times, this list is by no means comprehensive. Surely there are exceptions as well. In any event, I wanted to provide a launching pad for the discussion and I know many women who are in these troubled marriages are worried and need to be given some outline of where to start addressing things.
In regards to gay men and the gym, this is a well established fact and many, many gay men use the gym to “cruise” each other. Sadly, there are far too many graphic websites that offer first hand accounts of these situations if you do some basic googling. It really ruins the gym experience for those of us who simply want to stay in shape. Some gyms have been wholly claimed by gay people and straight people know to steer clear. It’s sad but a fact of life in many big cities.
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Hmmmm, I wonder why there may be gay men hiding themselves in heterosexual relationships and ruining lives instead of living the life they desire?
Oh! It must be that the religious right in America is using their power over government and their checkbooks to create discriminatory laws to prevent equality and to spread hate towards gays and lesbians!
Separation of church and state? Equality for all? What a joke.
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To quote you sir: “In regards to gay men and the gym, this is a well established fact and many, many gay men use the gym to “cruise” each other. Sadly, there are far too many graphic websites that offer first hand accounts of these situations if you do some basic googling. It really ruins the gym experience for those of us who simply want to stay in shape. Some gyms have been wholly claimed by gay people and straight people know to steer clear. It’s sad but a fact of life in many big cities.”
So, you admit that you surf the web looking for stories about gay encounters? Isn’t that one of your signs that a guy might be gay?? I am sorry, but you seriously contradict yourself here.
Other than surfing Playgirl and Hustler, what are your actual sources for any of your facts please?? Who are the real PHD’s and MD’s that you interviewed for this article?
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4:48 pm
Don’t heterosexual people go to the gym to “cruise.” It is kind of hard not to admire other people at the gym. Just because some gay people look to meet others there and some hook up doesn’t mean this doesn’t happen for straight people too.
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Are you people for real? Is this a joke?
“why do rabbits rape cats?” “Do gay pets go to heaven?” “how to spot a masturbator” “I am extremely terrified of Chinese people” WTF?
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Bullshit billings,you contradict yourself all the time and here is one of tehm.You responded to TanZanite’s post with the following:
“Hi, you do make some interesting points and as I have stated many times, this list is by no means comprehensive. Surely there are exceptions as well. In any event, I wanted to provide a launching pad for the discussion and I know many women who are in these troubled marriages are worried and need to be given some outline of where to start addressing things.”
But yet in the beginning.you stated this:
“Drawing on the expertise of spiritual and medical professionals, Christwire has put together a list of 15 commonly-accepted characteristics of men struggling with homosexuality within a marriage:”
So which is it?
One or the other but not both..you really are starting to get caught with your own lies now billings…don’t start tripping yourself now.
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quote stevenson:
Hi, you do make some interesting points and as I have stated many times, this list is by no means comprehensive. Surely there are exceptions as well. In any event, I wanted to provide a launching pad for the discussion and I know many women who are in these troubled marriages are worried and need to be given some outline of where to start addressing things.
In regards to gay men and the gym, this is a well established fact and many, many gay men use the gym to “cruise” each other. Sadly, there are far too many graphic websites that offer first hand accounts of these situations if you do some basic googling. It really ruins the gym experience for those of us who simply want to stay in shape. Some gyms have been wholly claimed by gay people and straight people know to steer clear. It’s sad but a fact of life in many big cities. quote end
Dear me mr. stevenson. Seems to me you are including yourself in the group of men who just wants to stay in shape, yes? No manfull competion ot sportplay for you?
……like them showers mr. stevenson?
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“For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, but a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries.” –Hebrews 10:26-7.
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the specific bible verse is escaping me right now, but dude, if you’re gonna keep quoteing that the bible says being gay is wrong, re read the entire story of david and goliath. at one point, david and joshua (the king’s son) “unite their souls”, before he marries the king’s daughter.
yeah, as in david and joshua were gay. in YOUR BIBLE.
so…your own bible doesn’t say it’s wrong…i’m still looking for the verse where it explicitly says homosexuality is wrong.
fyi: people like you are the reason i left my church.
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leviticus 18 22 says that being gay is bad. However, there is tons of weird stuff in the old testament and many Christians believe that the Old Testament rules aren’t the end all be all. Accepting Jesus is what gets you to heaven.
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I find it strange this man is going around and trying to show women how to tell if there husbands are secretly gay. His advice would suit any man or woman for almost any situation. gay, online sex, gambling addictions, alcohol addictions, etc. But he talks about Gays..Why? Because he is scared of them, he has fears. He above most men is to be pitied, for he has let his fear rule him instead of bravely looking at them and over coming them rather then giving in to them. Even Jerry Falwell, despite the fact that he ran anti homosexual platforms, Had gay friends whom he would have over for supper on a regular basis. I am thinking Jerry was a closet gay himself, in denial but the tendancy was there.
Sir do you think there is a gay man under every bush? Have you been molested at some point? Why do you fear gay men?
I would like also to address his quoting of the bible. Leviticus is often used to show Homosexual activities are an abomination. But the christians say they are free from the law, so why are they still binding themselves by the law, instead of living free. Paul says all things are permissable, but not beneficial. I would assume that would cover being gay as well as eating non kosher food or the wearing of clothing of mixed materials, or the eating of Lobsters or shrimp, or shellfish, all which are abominations to the God as well. Of course they will qualify these things and come up with some excuse as to why one and not the others.. Just a bunch of white washed hypocritical thinking.
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this is the verse 1 Sam 18:1-4
18 And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. 2 And Saul took him that day, and would let him go no more home to his father’s house. 3 Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul. 4 And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was upon him, and gave it to David, and his garments, even to his sword, and to his bow, and to his girdle.
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It was about jealousy I think…
17 Saul said to David, “Here is my older daughter Merab. I will give her to you in marriage; only serve me bravely and fight the battles of the LORD.” For Saul said to himself, “I will not raise a hand against him. Let the Philistines do that!”
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Dear Stephen,
I would strongly suggest a change of career/retirement. It is clear that you have NO knowledge what so ever of the book you base your life on… you have no understanding of how to interpret the passages, and are waaaaay too fast to quote scriptures, completely out of context. I am so happy I involved groups on Facebook on the matter of your ridiculous article. You should keep your homophobic rants to yourself – and your church(god willing they will not be damaged too much).
have you ever considered – that perhaps god in fact does want gay men… perhaps it something to do with … urm.. i dont know… over population? perhaps its that the children of today are being brainwashed by petty idiots such as yourself… and he is trying to prevent that.
god you American christians are just wrong! I dont know where you come off insulting major portions of the worlds population? and then basing it on your crappy “jesus loves”bull shit!
If he loves… why are you condemning on his behalf? Have you thought about what he would say about your article?
If you truly believe the bible … why not take a page from that book(LOL) and just love… stop hating. stop changing. stop! please
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Please, do not delude yourself. Gays are not “major portions of the world’s populations”.
I had gay friends and coworkers. Some of them are extremely intolerant and activists, walking with a chip on their shoulder like the world owes them. Truth is, nobody owes nobody else. Nobody is better than anybody else. As for this poor excuse of “journalistic” excrement, it comes across as a comedy piece. I can’t possibly take it seriously.
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I love this reply!
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I honestly had to look at the URL after I started reading. I looked over and over again as I read, thinking I was going to see The Onion written up there. This is hilarious. Really, really, funny stuff.
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I agree, totally Onion material.
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Here’s the chick’s end of it:
http://fakegrownups.wordpress.com/2010/08/20/is-your-wife-a-lesbian-top-10-ways-to-tell/
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wow…those are cute guys! are any single??
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Comedian, this website is satire. It’s not great satire, but it’s certainly fake. Stephenson B is playing a persona in responding to you. Hence why “he” never provides credentials to Claire and responds with ad hominems to ad hominems. It’s all a joke. Thoughtless and well-worn in some areas, but fictional nevertheless.
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Right…Jeez, shows that context is all important. I’d read and commented before I noticed some of the other articles on rabbits and dirty girls… Sad thing, gives people opposed to this kind of crap religious dog(ma)shit a bad rep as not being sharp enough to check it out before angrily commenting…I feel thoroughly chastised – thanks for being the sharp tool in the shed
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Not interested in your childish paranoid fantasies.
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This site has an article on a fictitious release of a Justin Bieber expansion of World of Warcraft. This site is obviously just a little more subtle sarcasm than the Onion. I think this article is meant to draw flies and chuckles by reflecting just how stupid all of these ideas are.
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Please stop spreading this nonsense. It really is far too childish for my time. I am honest and forthright about my opinions, why does that scare you people so much? It saddens me that children like you simply cannot comprehend or believe the faith community in this country. That is truly indicative of the cultural divide we’re experiencing right now. This is why so many of you left wingers don’t understand Sarah Palin’s supporters or the real anger behind the Tea Party movement. Yes, I cannot speak for each and every article on this website. We are an open community after all that accepts submissions from all sorts of people, so sometimes there is a diversity here that includes questionable writing. However, I am a journalist and a Christian and I’m patriotic. I just want to see the very best for this country. My work is perfectly in line with mainstream Evangelical Christianity today. If you know the works of people like Dr. James Dobson or Rev Robertson or the advocacy of men like Bill Donohue, Tony Perkins, Maggie Gallagher, etc. etc. you will see that. Well, God bless my friend and good luck.
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we fear you expresion of you openions because your openions are really scary.
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This is not satire? It would make the most sense to me. If it is not, then it is really sad.
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U really like to read about Sarah Palin and what she is about…. lengthy but informative… LOL
http://www.vanityfair.com/politics/features/2010/10/sarah-palin-201010?currentPage=8
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Sorry to burst the fun bubble, but this whole website is satire. Google “christwire satire” and you’ll find a few articles about how NBC and Huffington Post fell for this article, and then retracted/corrected it all.
Steve, brilliant writing–keep up the good work on the “unsaved world”. I’ll direct all the English satire students I know to your stuff.
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People of faith have long stood up for traditional morality in this country, yet today with the internet when you express the great tenets of Faith you are shouted down and called all sorts of vile names. The disinformation campaigns of you liberals is always in high gear, ready to disparage all sorts of Christians. Look at Stephen Colbert, he fakes being a conservative and a Christian to discredit Christianity in this country. If we had someone who did the same thing about one of your liberal pet causes (for example someone pretending to be homosexual or a Muslim), you people would scream bloody murder. Well, I’m not buying your nonsense nor do I see any reason why people should take your lies seriously. Crawl back under your rock.
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HAHAHA DISREGARD THIS ARTICLE I SUCK COCKS
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…Stephen Colbert is a Christian. A church-attending, bible school-teaching Christian. Honestly and truly. He just also thinks right-wing values are bad for our country.
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I have written exactly why frauds like Colbert are bad for this country. I don’t care if he claims to be a Christian, he’s still a negative influence on our children.
http://stephensonbillings.wordpress.com/2010/01/11/19/
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getting a little hostile for a journalist, steve. the only thing we’ve got well documented at this point is that many christian republicans who preach moral superiority turn to have been gay all along. and now you’re gonna casually bring up muslims? god help us!
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Laura, journalists are human beings with beating hearts you know. The whole idea of the dispassionate media is a fraud and has been proven so by the subversive liberalism of many of your most prominent journalists over the years. Most sway Democrat and vote and donate their money in that way. As many studies have shown, the mainstream media tends to be far more liberal than ordinary Americans. Yes, I have Passion. Yes, I am a Christian and Yes I am not afraid to confront the lies of the liberal left in order to promote TRUTH.
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Are you seriously calling being a Muslim a “liberal pet cause” or have i misread what you have written.
Also, doesn’t it say in the Bible somewhere about love thy neighbor, and let he without sin cast the first stone?
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http://www.vanityfair.com/politics/features/2010/10/sarah-palin-201010?currentPage=8
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So, I’ve read through a lot of the comments, and I see you doing more name calling than those that you claim to be using these “vile names.” You are doing the labeling, sir. Like someone else mentioned above, you have called anyone who disagreed with you “left wingers,” “liberals,” and “you people.”
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I happen to go to church with Stephen Colbert’s niece and attended the Catholic high school where his niece and sister work. He is in fact a practicing Catholic. Just because he is a Catholic doesn’t mean he has to agree with your crazy views based on fear, ignorance, misinterpretation, and a particularly dangerous brand of hate. I for example am a Catholic but I support gay rights.
To try and appeal to your mindset for a minute here lets pretend that being gay is wrong, which it isn’t. Did Jesus condemn and ostracize sinners? No, Jesus ate with sinners, adulterers and tax collectors. Jesus saved an adulterer from being stoned. Jesus forgave Mary Magdelene, a former prostitute. So why are you spreading hate on your website?
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Red flag: this guy is a “motivational children’s party planner” and “antique” collector? Um, talk about about riding the train to gay-ville!! It’s always the loudest opponents that turn out to be the very thing they claim to hate… so sad…
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Jay, that is an incredibly childish and mean-spirited thing to say. Typical of people who hate.
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“Jay, that is an incredibly childish and mean-spirited thing to say. Typical of people who hate.”
Sir, that is an incredibly childish and mean-spirited thing to say. But I guess you already know it’s typical of people who hate, since you said that already.
I have to state that if this isn’t satire, I feel particularly sorry for you. Do you need a hug, sir? Hate like this isn’t healthy, or normal.
PS. Why do no Christians who argue against being gay remember that bit about “loving thy neighbor as thyself”, or “do unto others as you would have them to unto you”, or HEAVEN FORBID “Jesus loves me, this I know, for the bible tells me so”! I’m pretty sure that they didn’t keep the gay kindergartners from singing that.
PPS. You mentioned Dr. Schlessinger in another comment, and Leviticus. I have a letter for you, sir. On why using the bible, especially Leviticus, is about the stupidest argument ever, and it was written to Dr. Laura herself. Enjoy. http://www.humanistsofutah.org/2002/WhyCantIOwnACanadian_10-02.html
PPPS. Don’t stay in Narnia too long, there. You might free to death without the scarf that that other man tried to give to you.
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This article is filled with clichés that only a closeted homosexual would use in order to divert suspicion. Of all the signs listed, I would rank someone expressing such a opinion as number one on the list of suspicions.
It’s the worst load of cr… i’ve ever read. It’s just filled with uneducated assumptions and demeaning comments just for the sake of some hypocritical morality
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Half of these “signs,” are actually signs of insecurities. Anyone who cares about their physical appearance too much, is insecure no matter how confident or cocky they seem, it’s insecurities.
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Also if your husband has another man’s penis in his mouth he might be gay. Just saying.
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4:51 pm
God! what a silly article! the person who wrote it must be mentally challenge! Do some serious research about human sexuality. Is the author a closeted gay person?
by the way, gay men don’t marry women! get real.
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Angela, you are simply wrong when you state that gay men aren’t marrying women. Look at any of the number of links I have provided above. What about the most famous case, that of Democrat Governor McGreevy of New Jersey?
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Stephenson Billings, the man with two last names, are you sure you’re not having a fling with my husband because you sure have his number. I never considered using a phone to send text messages and being tired after a workout as red flags. The worry for me began when he started wearing feather boas to bed and doing Joan Rivers impressions in his sleep. Why not Don Rickles? Geez, I’d even settle for Steve Allen. Sometimes he’d even pass me an imaginery microphone and ask me to “keep ‘em going.” Then he’d sleepwalk onto the balcony and light up a Virginia Slim. Last night he made risotto. Yeah, risotto!
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John 8:7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.”
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“You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination.” –Leviticus 18:22
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The only verse Stevie actually follows, nevermind that Leviticus says that touching dead pig skin is unclean and cutting your hair is grounds for death, as well as the fact that poor eye-sight means that you can’t see God.
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Mr. Billings,
For the record, I AM a degreed journalist and active member of the Nat’l. Association of Broadcasters, Nat’l. Association of Black Journalists and Nat’l. Gay Journalists Association. Just because you can put subjects and verbs together in a coherent sentences on the internet DOES NOT make you a journalist, not to mention an investigative one! What you have written is what we in the business call “Yellow Journalism”. (I’m sure you’ll need to look up the definition)
First of all, your First Amendment Rights can only be violated by the government, NOT by other citizens exercising their First Amendment Rights to oppose and/or counteract your unsubstantiated comments.
As an openly gay man in a long term, 10+ years monogamous relationship, I find your comments incredibly inaccurate, sexist and oozing with hate. Ask yourself, “Who would Jesus denigrate?” the next time you start pecking away on your Cheeto’s-residue covered keyboard in the false name of Christianity.
Finally, your ramblings about “lean bodied, shirtless men”, “secret orgies”, and “being in the company of younger men” makes me wonder whether this article is more a manifesto of your own latent homosexual tendencies and possible deviant addiction to pedophilia. (which has nothing to do with openly gay men who are secure in their own sexual identity).
In the words of Shakespeare, “Methinks thou doth protest too much!” (I see you peeking out of the closet!)
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You make some very good points in your well written comments – they attest to the legitimacy of your being an authentic, committed journalist. As such, I felt compelled to reply.
This list is both humorous in the speculative details that ‘substantiate’ each of the points, and lamentable in the possibility that the author is actually earnest. If the latter is true, it does imply the possibility of him being a gay man, deeply “closeted” due to dogma that is based on misinterpretations of the Bible. This circumstance is unfortunate and brings up at least two significant points:
1. Most people do not understand that the Bible is comprised of translated and edited versions of numerous original texts by different transcriptionists.
2. Some people construe the Bible literally and fail to consider that current versions – and there are more than one – were intended for an audience who lived thousands of years ago, whose intellectual and educational levels were (presumably) substandard than contemporary people.
I am hopeful that eventually, people will become educated enough to understand these points and subsequently focus on the aspects of the Bible that promote kindness and love. Surely people would be happier and set positive examples through their day to day living that others not so inclined would want to emulate. Otherwise, we will continue to be mired in the unhappiness, frustration, insecurity and unwarranted fear that result in pontifications such as this frivolous and fallacious “Is My Husband GAY?” piece.
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As one journalist to another, let me just say your commentary crosses the line.
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More like, from one hack to a legit journalist, and how does that cross the line? Oh right, he called you out on your bullshit.
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The “symptoms” described here apply to just about every net addict or metrosexual. I’m sure a few are gay, but most just need to get lives. Kinda like what you should be doing. At least get an education. You give decent Christians a bad name.
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“Decent Christians”? Who are you to claim what the mainstream of Christianity is today? You’re out of touch, my friend, if you think you speak for decency since my work is strictly aligned with the vast majority of America’s Christian leaders working right now. I base my teaching and my journalism on the work of many other experts, from Dr. James Dobson of Focus on the Famlly to Tony Perkins of the Family Research Council, to name but a few. Do you support people like Pastor Joel Osteen or Rev. Robertson at all?
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Dude.. really? haha ok, im catholic and this article is ridiculous, i mean i understand the “concern” u might have for other people marriage, but you are sooo wayyyy off, let me tell you, if someone is gay and they are married i guaranty you their wifes know about it… i mean i think you are trying to help.. but really if you want to write at article about this stuff… i dont know.. THINK FIRST! going to the gym? going to big cities? trendy clothes? really? try harder..try this, when u sitting there where ever u sit, at night, “thinking” what to write.. try dedicating a for more seconds to it, then go outside, and ask the first person u run into, if what u are writing makes any sense..thats a start, good luck!
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Please, everyone, this whole site is parody and satire. Most of your responses are noble, but a waste here.
And to those of you saying people are stupid for not recognizing the humorous nature of these articles, stop being asses. Good satire can appear completely serious, and the assumed mindset in this article is common among the fundie polemicists. If someone only encountered this article believing it to be sincere – and were unfamiliar with website as a whole, I’m not surprised so many took it seriously. How long did it take you to figure it out?
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This is a fuckin symphony of FAIL. What I’ve learned so far:
• Being gay is worse for your husband that his crystal meth habit
• The shame of being outed is worse than a sexless marriage
• I love porn, therefore I’m gay
• Me winking at other men MIGHT be a sign I’m gay, not a full on fuckin billboard like I thought.
• I need to share my germs spit and saliva with my wife, along with including phone logs, email accounts, chat friends and website histories.
• Metrosexual = homosexual
• If a good work out and running 7 miles makes me too tired to fuck my wife, I’m a flaming faggot.
• Steam rooms are for fags only.
• Nice deodorant, faggot.
• Emo fags are fags after all.
• Choking a bitch during anal might mean I’m gay.
• Thinking John Holmes is hung might mean I like donger.
• All you business men who go to Thailand from SF ….ur as gay as Clay.
• I need to stop watching Glee.
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LOL – I agree The COmedian! This fellar is just talking crazy talk now and is reflecting his own prejudices as opposed to the true teachings of Jesus.
Follow Jesus, not this guy. He brings punishment on himself for misleading the sheep form their true Shepherd. Watch you do not err into heresy here Stephenson.
You will bring the punishment of God Himself upon you for misleading even one soul form the Good Shepherd. i suggest you take a sabbatical and go immerse youself in the New Testament for a good while before you take on any true followers of Jesus. You are preaching hatred int he name of Jesus and I would not want to be in your shoes in front of the Judgment Seat.Take heed for your very own soul. You are not fit to lead His Children.
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Troll bait
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“Right now in America there are over 2 million couples secretly struggling with homosexuality in their marriages.”
Source?
Have you ever heard the term “differential diagnosis”? In the medical field a differential diagnosis is a different disease or condition that can cause the same symptoms as the disease that is suspected. For example, a woman goes to her gynecologist because she’s experiencing cramping in between periods. The doc suspects endometriosis, but a differential diagnosis would be uterine cancer, because uterine cancer also produces cramping.
So, I’m going to come up with “differential diagnoses” for the “symptoms”, for lack of a better word, you listed for homosexuality.
So, here we go:
“1) Secretive late night use of cellphones and computers”
Differential dx:
-working
-communicating with old buddies
-playing or surfing the net in order to wind down before bed
-doing research
-posting on bigoted sites like christwire
-having an affair with another WOMAN
“3) Feigning attention in church and prayer groups”
Differential dx:
-he’s not religious
-he has something better to do
-he has a lot on his mind
“4) Overly fastidious about his appearance and the home”
Differential dx:
-he doesn’t want his gender to be viewed as smelly, disgusting apes
-he believes in women’s rights and thus pitches in to help out around the house
“Natural men have a certain amount of grit about them. They sweat and they smell.”
Yeah, and then they shower, so they don’t smell anymore!
“5) Gym membership but no interest in sports”
Gyms have nothing to do with sports. Just because one believes in exercising and strengthening the body doesn’t mean that they have to like sports. I don’t belong to a gym, but my mom has several pieces of exercise equipment in our living room that we share. Tossing a ball around has nothing to do with gyms and gym memberships.
“Gay men use the gym as a place to socialize and to have secret liaisons in the bathrooms.”
Oh give me a fucking break! Gay men use gyms to work out, not to have sex in bathrooms!
“They like to work out their bodies without the competition of sports play.”
So do I and many other people, gay and straight. Is that a crime?
“If your man returns from the gym too exhausted to talk or have sex, that is a worrisome sign.”
Yeah…or perhaps he’s simply tired from, uh…exercising?
“If there is a sudden interest in sodomy, sadomasochism, lubricants, role-play, sex toys or other non-traditional intercourse methods, this is clearly an indication of deep emotional abnormalities.”
Straight people practice sodomy all the time and it has nothing to do with latent homosexual desires. If you do the same thing all the time, it gets monotonous, does it not? So, you try to change things up a bit. It works the same way in the bedroom. Heck, sometimes it’s the woman who wants to try the anal sex, not the guy! The same thing is true for S&M, role-play, and sex toys. As for lubricant, oftentimes lube is needed for vaginal intercourse if the woman does not manage to self-lubricate enough. Trust me, I’ve never had sex but I masturbate, and it not pleasant if the vagina is not lubricated enough.
“9) Travels frequently to big cities or Asia”
Differential dx:
-he has a secret girlfriend in those places
-he’s looking for hookers
-he’s on business
-he’s a pedophile who goes to Asia for the female child prostitutes
-he likes to get away
“10) Too many friendly young male friends”
You mean like you and your little camping buddies?
Did you ever consider that perhaps these are just his “pals”?
“11) Sassy, sarcastic and ironic around his friends
A man who is secretly engaged in homosexual activity with others may exhibit feminine qualities when they get together in a group.”
So you’re saying that females are sassy? Go fuck yourself with something hard and sand-papery.
“It’s quite common for young men to enjoy the science fiction end of popular culture”
No it’s not. Boys have always made fun of me for liking sci-fi. And these were straight boys, obviously, because I’ve never been made fun of by a gay guy.
“He may be craving physical affirmation from other men”
Or he could be showing off for the ladies. Ever consider that?
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Mind if I add some stuff to that list Claire?
//It’s quite common for young men to enjoy the science fiction end of popular culture, but when your husband becomes overly obsessed with romantic and feminine shows, that is cause for alarm. Gossip websites, Glee and The Golden Girls are three well-documented icons of the gay movement that genuine heterosexual men avoid.//
So straight-guys can’t enjoy an actually decent romance plot or have a softer side period or else they’re gay? They have to constantly be all ‘tough ‘n buff’ because that’s how everyone is supposed to see straight guys? Or is that how you were beaten and raised, that if you had a softer side, that you were instantly labeled as gay?
//Does he go shirtless in the back yard or at picnics when other men are around? Does he wear a speedo at the beach? Does it seem like he’s purposely standing right in the middle of a crowd to show off his chest and arm muscles, peppering people with questions about how strong he looks? He may be craving physical affirmation from other men and desperately looking for hints of shared desires in those around him.//
Because guys don’t show off to impress women, that’s just stupid! Am I right? No, if a dude’s topless on the streets, it’s because he wants the penis, he hates it when women ogle at his chest.
//Sometimes people dealing with an unbearable emotional issue like homosexuality will turn to alcohol to hide their distress. Does your man disappear on drinking binges for long hours without answering his cellphone? Is there a strange odor about him when he returns, some strange mix of cigarettes and gel? Does he cry frequently?//
So the majority of times a guy does this it’s because he’s gay? Never mind that he: may lose his house, has problems with his wife over various issues, thinks he’s going to lose his job/has lost his job, has his friends abandon him, having to deal with a mistake he made several years ago that continues to haunt him to this day, spent time, effort, or money on any kind of project just to have the entire thing blow up in their face, and god knows what else. Nope, it’s more than likely that deep down his gay and can’t handle being gay, even though most people tend to not care about sexuality these days to warrant the self-hate.
//This is an important question to ask yourself when your marriage starts to have problems. Statistics have shown that women who have encountered gay men romantically in the past are the most likely to repeat this mistake in future relationships.//
What statistics? Exactly how often do women date a gay guy and manage to do it several times? It sounds more like if a woman dates several men and in the process they all realize their gay or become gay, then it’s probably just bad luck rather than some phenomenon. Either that, or she’s done something to turn them all off and they’re using ‘I’m gay’ as an excuse to leave her.
//Porn addiction is closely associated with homosexuality and a secretive nature implies he’s trying to hide something from you. Be on the lookout for a man who doesn’t want to web surf or answer phone calls in your presence. Texting is another favorite trick used by adulterers. For the sake of trust, a married couple should share everything, including phone logs, email accounts, chat friends and website histories.//
Or maybe there’s the fact that the man may be ashamed of his wife’s sexual performance or his performance, or maybe one of them has become boring, or maybe there are certain things he enjoys that he doesn’t feel comfortable telling about and doesn’t want her to think otherwise. Not only that, everyone has their own secrets that they SHOULDN’T tell someone else. Sometimes it’s simple, other times it isn’t. If you know too much about the other person, then things get boring. To go back to the whole thing with porn, there has to be some serious trouble at the start if a guy is resorting to essentially ‘pre-marriage porn stash’ to get off.
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actually a lot of marriage has been saved by porn
yetI think Billings is the one Homosexual because over 200 Millions people worldwide are atheist and don,t want to go to church so ya saying that around 200 millions of people are Gay because they don,t go to church
what about priest who rapes altarboy ?
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Hi, I will try to dig through your comment but I believe you have made many grave errors of comprehension. Some of your points are needlessly hostile.
1) There are natural differences between the brains of men and women and it’s well-known that certain types of shows appeal to homosexuals. If a man suddenly embraces perfume and body glitter, would that not make you wonder? Where is the line? Well, I think it’s helpful to start this discussion and try to pinpoint those elements of our culture that appeal specifically to the homosexuals.
2) See my comment to Claire below. I am talking about situations when it’s evident the men are showing off for each other. There are many times when you can encounter a group of shirtless males without girls, in public parks, etc.
3) You’re misinterpreting me if you think every male alcoholic is homosexual. However, every women who has discovered a homosexual husband has noted this as a common trait. Your tone gets a bit ridiculous here, as if you’re not really trying to absorb my point but simply making trouble.
4) As noted below in my reply to Claire, porn addiction is one thing that men in marriage suffering from homosexuality have in common. In fact, it’s their web histories that give them away, when their wives discover this! If you read the testimonals as I have, you will see this topic come up time and again. I.e.:
“Possession of homosexual pornography (videos, magazines, photos stored on his computer). If your husband has consistently viewed homosexual pornography, on the computer (check the history in your internet browser!) remember that he probably would not be doing this if he did not enjoy it. It is simply too risky an activity to merely “check out”.” Heather Cram author of You’re What?! Survival Strategies for Straight Spouses.
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You’re a bigoted, extremely uninformed low life piece of shit, people like you need to be wiped off the face of this planet. You disgust me.
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What would Ahmadinejad say? Probably what you just said. You’re no better than the author of this article.
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I do not usually comment directly on a phrase a person has written, Claire and The Comedian do a superb job of that already and I do not wish to usurp that. I do not break down an article bit by bit because, between Claire and The Comedian, it would just be redundant. However, on this particular comment, and because you are so special, I will comment on this:
1) I believe the homosexual line is when, if you are male, you wish to put a penis in your mouth. Provided that, you might think about accepting that you may be gay. Barring that, although I have no love of fashion, I do not hold that as evidence for a person’s sexuality.
2) I won’t comment on this one. I think it speaks for itself.
3) This is hardly a case of ‘Alcoholism is linked to Homosexuality’ rather a classic case of ‘Alcoholism linked to depression’ or ‘Alcoholism linked to stress’. You ‘evidence’ needs to backup your conclusions.
4) You might clarify this to mean ‘gay porn’ as a sign of homosexuality to alleviate some of that confusion. What if you never look at ‘gay porn’? What if you only look at, say, women masturbating. Would that make you gay? How about heterosexual intercourse? Or lesbians?
These hypothetical situations are assuming you are male. I did this deliberately, because I noticed the people are LESS bothered by a homosexual relationship between two women than they are by two men. At least, in the community I am in now.
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Mr. Billings, are you REALLY a moron or do you just play one on the internet?
Your list is ridiculous, you’re just too dense to realize it. As an actual mental health professional, I can tell you that the “problem” as you state it is NOT porn, The Golden Girls or homosexuality. It is close-minded religious bigots who guilt people into trying to be something they’re not. It IS a shame that there are people who feel so strongly that the people who SHOULD love them unconditionally and only want them to be happy will reject them if they decide to live the life that feels right and natural to them that they get married to a member of the opposite sex to try to be something they’re not. Their (usually) unsuspecting spouse IS a victim in that scenerio, but not of homosexuality, of bigotry and religious intolerance. People who quote the Bible to suit them. Leviticus also states that eating shellfish is an abomination. So where is your list of ways to know if your spouse is going to Red Lobster?
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8:46 pm
You state that EVERY woman reported alcoholism as a common trait when discovering a homosexual husband.
It has also been discovered that EVERY serial killer has had episodes of bedwetting beyond the age of 6 years old. Following your logic that perceived excessive alcohol usage can indicate homosexuality; society should be concerned for any child who wets his or her bed beyond the age of 6, as this may indicate a future in killing.
I wonder if we can find some common childhood traits that ALWAYS, EVERY TIME lead to homosexuality in one partner in a marriage, while the other partner is somehow completely oblivious…I am sure there is a study out there.
*(at which point, the question becomes not whether or not the partner is homosexual or whether or not a person is a serial killer; but rather, what we should do with these children who are clearly predestined to become homosexual partners in a heterosexual marriage or serial killers, respectively).
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In one of Stevie’s earlier comments he wrote: “porn addiction is one thing that men in marriage suffering from homosexuality have in common”…
I wasn’t aware that homosexuality was an ailment one suffers from. You are a bigot. The bible teaches acceptance. Practice in the mirror.
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Really, Stephenson? EVERY WOMAN? You’ve rounded them all up and interviewed them? My father, who was married to my mother, was gay (he passed away 15 years ago) and he didn’t drink at all; not even socially. So I guess you missed one. Which is really surprising considering how otherwise well informed and correct the article is. /sarcasm
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4:54 pm
I see you used sarcasm! Aha! This must mean you’re GAY.
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Dear Author,
finally, my girlfriends 3 out of 4 ex’s turned out to be gay. Past experience doesn’t predict the future. Just because odds say (to you) that I would be gay, it doesn’t mean my future fiance should become paranoid of something that doesn’t exist as much as you would like her to. Her gay ex’s don’t reflect at all on my preferences… hell I don’t even know them.
I really do beg that you read this post and think about its message and absorb it as you wish for us to absorb your ill-conceived thoughts. I write to educate you in the ways of the lord that I know and also the ways of our common day man.
Well… to be completely honest I thought this article was in satire upon reading it and even upon my completion did I still think it was humor.
And as heinous as most of your points are I think I will only talk about the select few I can remember without needing to scroll up. Here is a real bombshell: if my girlfriend of 2 years were to read this article and believe it, I’d be done for. So think of how many relationships you have ended that there wasn’t any problem.
You’re probably wondering why she would have ended it, so I am going to tell you.
1) I do have a gym membership and I go shirtless a lot, even with girls not around especially outside because sometimes its hot. Less clothing = less heat…
2) I watch a lot of porn, and it has nothing to do with homosexuality because I enjoy sexual activity more frequently than my girlfriend.
3) I stay up late on my computer all the time when I can’t sleep not to be gay as you so eloquently put it but in order to post on dumb articles such as your very own.
4) Just because I or anyone else for that matter watches Days of our LIves or Glee does not make me/us gay. It simply means we have different taste. Watching ESPN or SPIKETv does not make me a man. Also I am willing to bet there is NO scientific evidence to back up you saying homosexuals tend to enjoy certain shows.
5) Men do get dirty yes… but impressing the female portion of our population requires us not to be apes like you and your “straight man”. All through highschool I made sure I never wore the same outfit or article within 2 weeks. I alway woke up two hours before class to take a shower where I used Bath and Body Works products and exfoliated daily even spent 20 minutes fixing my hair each morning. I’ve had chemical peals and even had a dozen manicures. Does that make me gay? No. It means I liked having 13 girls on each arm at all times. Also wearing tight “trendy” clothes gets you laid. Try it.
6) If someone isn’t religious it doesn’t mean that they are gay… if anything as a christian you should witness to them and tell them why they should be not chase them away by accusing them of your “abomination” speak – which i digress, is in the old testament so unless you’re jewish doesn’t really apply to you – and falsely indoctrinated propaganda.
7) And for the record heavy drinking is common in anybody with personel problems… it doesn’t just apply to gays… If someone has a personel problem they are ashamed of (not to say being gay is something to be ashamed of and certainly not as much as you make it out to be which makes their situation exponentially harder) drinking would help them to forget no matter what it is. People drink when they’re depressed. It doesnt help that your articles are making their wives skeptical of their preference.
Your logic is flawed, your religious beliefs are not the work of the lord, and you certainly are the most bigoted, intolerant, fascist, worthless excuse for a writer that I have ever had the displeasure in learning about.
Another religious tid-bit… all sins are equal, so you lying about your “medical research” is just as bad in the eyes of the lord as homosexuality. And always remember, Judge not lest ye be judged. I bid you good day, and I will pray for you that god forgives your ignorance and will have mercy on you.
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“it is well known” does not constitute a reputable source any more so than does “some people say” or “i have heard.”
now if you’d cited a peer reviewed study or any scientific data (i know, science with its tested theories and supportable evidence is bogus to you) you’d have been onto something.
your “research” as it stands is specious at best.
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While it is possible that some respondents are overreacting to your article, their use of hyperbole is a device to demonstrate the ridiculous nature of your article. It’s called ‘satire’. Which, I’m praying like hell, is it what you were attempting in the first place!
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//There are many times when you can encounter a group of shirtless males without girls, in public parks..\\
Seriously? That’s not a sign they might be gay, but wearing a speedo at the beach to show off a lean and athletic body is a sign a guy’s gay??
Well then; To All The Lifegaurds!! We Now Know You Are All Gay!!!
Come on, seriously??
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Oh, what tangled webs we weave, when first we practice to… succumb to stereotypes.
You’ll do much better to understand that not all gay men look like ’90s (or for that matter, ’70s) television stereotypes. I’m as queer as a three-dollar bill, but I can’t stand celebrity gossip web sites. Almost nobody who met me would jump to thinking “he’s gay”, but that’s because being gay simply isn’t the most interesting thing about me. I also dress “butch” (no tight jeans or teen-style t-shirts), I go to the gym to actually work out, and I don’t use perfume-y body products, ever.
Kudos to commenter Clare, above, for having a clue. The “hints” in this article are useful for driving gossip and paranoia, but are hogwash from a diagnostic standpoint.
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Homosexual contact is common in the “wet” areas of health clubs and spas. I have seen this well over a hundred times. The shower is a “cruising” area where men strut and pose, and proceed to enter the steam room. Once the steam reaches the point of decreased visibility, then mutual masturbation or oral sodomy can occur without being visible to all. Men should always wear footwear in these areas, and avoid sitting in steam rooms because there are boys erupting in there with some frequency.
The big giveaway is not necessarily if your husband goes to the gym, but look for these signs:
Is he there more than an hour? Virtually all exercise routines can be completed in less time.
Does he shower there? Normal men avoid locker rooms today, because societal prohibition against homosexuality has evaporated, encouraging SSA (same sex attraction) behavior there. If he showers and returns in an hour, you are okay. If he’s there for 2 hours, you have problems.
The biggest giveaway: HOW WET IS HIS TOWEL WHEN HE COMES BACK? Feel a towel after you’ve taken a shower at home, and you realize it’s barely damp. If he comes back from the gym after 3 hours and needs to wring out his sopping wet towel before hanging it up and it’s still wet the next morning, then he is frolicking in the showers and the steam room. You are most certainly married to a poofter.
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And how did you come up with this b/s? Personal research or pure fantasy?
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Adam, as a homosexual do you deny that gay men use the locker rooms of gyms to have sex?
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There’s a thing called ‘no doubt’ and ‘blanketing’ when it comes to information. No one doubts that there are people who get it on at a gym, but it’s completely different to say that ALL gay men bang each other at one. All you’re doing is making a blanket statement and assume everything covered by what you said means that the person in question is gay.
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I never said “all men” do it at the gym. Clearly I have visited a gym and do not engage in this behavior. I think it’s rather ridiculous for you to suggest that I meant something I did not. You’re incredible at jumping to absurd conclusions. It has become your modus operandi around here, hasn’t it?
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//I never said “all men” do it at the gym. Clearly I have visited a gym and do not engage in this behavior. I think it’s rather ridiculous for you to suggest that I meant something I did not. You’re incredible at jumping to absurd conclusions. It has become your modus operandi around here, hasn’t it?//
You’re the one jumping to absurd conclusions, I’m just showing you that your logic is flawed and retarded. You make a conspiracy in your head and attach to it, occasionally throwing in a random article that has hardly anything to do with the subject, but through your own asinine stupidity, you think it’s completely related.
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Personally I think this article shows poor grammar and verbiage; especially after reading the author’s comments of what he “really” meant. My guess is that the author just found a hot topic that would obviously lead to more views to his page. I’m sure the majority of the views to this site are from gay men looking for a good laugh. Personally, I’d be insulted if he had half the brain of rest of the human race. It’s close minded people like him that keep people from moving forward. You have nothing to gain by pushing other people beneath you.
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author said:
Why do you INSIST on using the term ‘homosexual’ all the time, when clearly the natural, common, preferred term is ‘gay’ or ‘gay man’?
Even you slip up and use ‘gay’ or ‘gay man/men’ sometimes, yet you insist on the forced, stilted, clinical ‘homosexual’ terminology.
Because you want to be sure to objectify and dehumanize us as much as possible.
Look at that, I answered my own question.
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To “Noone Important”:
Anyone who reads my work knows that I am consistent and write with a single worldview, whatever the topic it is that I am addressing. Your comment that my grammar is poor is rather childish and absurd. I write often and have commented here to defend the integrity of my piece. Sure, sometimes I make a small typo here and there, but that’s not enough to deserve the harsh response you have posted. I suspect you’re simply hostile and looking for a way to insult me. Not to worry, your ad hominem antics will not slow me down. Well, God bless you.
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//Your comment that my grammar is poor is rather childish and absurd. I write often and have commented here to defend the integrity of my piece.//
Yet you still misspell more than your fair share of words, so you’re just bitching that someone called you out on it.
//Sure, sometimes I make a small typo here and there, but that’s not enough to deserve the harsh response you have posted.//
SOMETIMES?! Every single one of your posts has at least one typo in it, you can’t defend your position of calling someone childish when not only they’re right, but you PROVED THEM RIGHT IN COMPLAINING ABOUT IT.
//I suspect you’re simply hostile and looking for a way to insult me. Not to worry, your ad hominem antics will not slow me down. Well, God bless you.//
The only thing you’ve said right so far, that no matter how hard we pound into your skull how retarded and insane you are, you simply don’t learn. You’re like a child who burnt his hand on a stove-top and after crying about it, kept putting his hand back on just to be burnt again.
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By the way mister stephen, I am a woman, and have enjoyed having sex in a secluded part of the gym with my BOYFRIEND. Just because a guy is having sex in a gym, doesn’t mean he’s gay
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–Homosexual contact is common in the “wet” areas of health clubs and spas. I have seen this well over a hundred times–
William, really, it’s not really about the exercise & health for you, is it?
I mean . . . “over a hundred times”? Really? Perhaps the reason is more regarding the Health Clubs & Spa’s you frequent?
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Yes, I would say you are correct, this is probably common in some health clubs, but probably doesn’t happen at all in others. This does not occur at the gym I go to now, but I saw it regularly at another gym in the same chain. The same guys are in the locker room when you arrive, they are there when you return from your workout, and they are still there in the locker room when you leave. And they are the same guys all the time. I think you certainly can’t jump to conclusions about a guy going to the gym. But if you grab the wrong towel off the hook in the shower and get one that belongs to a frolicker (I hope that term doesn’t seem judgmental), it’s amazing how wet their towels can be! I think the 3 Hour / Wet Towel Test is quite a valid measurement. Although I would qualify that by adding that it has to happen REPEATEDLY.
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ZOMG! *dies laughing* Look who knows a LOT about what goes on in steam rooms. BTW, I’m gay, and I’ve never seen action go on at the gym. Steam rooms or otherwise.
(Perhaps I’m going to the wrong gym?)
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It’s so funny the double standard that exists. I’m not gay, but I imagine if I was, and liked guys (er shudder) as much as I dig girls (ooh, unshudder) then I’d hang out in a gym change room. If only the girls would let me hang out in theirs.
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You’ve seen this well over a hundred times? What gym are you going to exactly? Because if its not the YMCA the Village People go to, I highly doubt that’s an accurate number. I doubt you’ve seen this well over one time. Even if everything you say is perfectly true and your description of the gym is correct, I would still refuse to believe that you have personally witnessed any sort of homosexual activity well over a hundred times and here’s why:
First off, you claim that these homosexual outbreaks occur in the steam room when the steam is too thick to see anybody. According to your own account, you literally would not be able to see this happening, and therefore wouldn’t know about this unless you were participating or sitting uncomfortably close to someone who was.
Secondly, if you had seen this happening multiple times, it means that you would have had to see it once, then repeatedly go back for more. And while your homophobia suggests that you are probably a closeted homosexual yourself, I get the feeling that if you were an active participant in these oh-so-frequent gay gym sexcapades, you wouldn’t be on this website bragging about your extensive knowledge of them.
And lastly, you claim that “Normal men avoid locker rooms today, because societal prohibition against homosexuality has evaporated, encouraging SSA (same sex attraction) behavior there.” You’re clearly saying that it’s common knowledge to straight men that gay men are having sex in the locker rooms, and therefore, avoid them. I hate to be repetitive, but this again suggests that you would have known exactly what was going on even before witnessing it “well over a hundred times” and could have prevented yourself from seeing it if you wanted to.
Oh, and also, “SSA” doesn’t stand for “same sex attraction,” it stands for “side side angle.” But I don’t expect you to know that as I’m sure you believe geometry is a sin, or the anti-christ, or something of that nature.
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“oral sodomy”
what the heck is that? Sodomy is anal inter-course, so are you saying that guys tongue each other’s butts in the steam room??
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I also like how the only ones that make any sense are the ones that are painfully obvious. What’s that, flirting with other men and whacking off to dude-porn might point to homosexuality? I feel so enlightened!
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Hi Claire, thanks for the comment. As for the specifics up there,
1) Here’s the source for my 2 million number: “Along with other high-profile examples such as evangelist leader Ted Haggard and former Congressman Mike Huffington, there are an estimated 2 million to 4 million gay people who are or have been married to straight spouses.” — “The McGreevey Effect: Is Your Husband Gay?”, ABC News, April 24, 2007.
2) The differential diagnosis theory is relevant, but we’re talking about a combination of symptoms and factors here that a woman can use to identify if her husband is having a homosexual lifestyle. I’m not saying each and every point is ironclad, but if a man is suffering from several of these points then yes, there should be cause for alarm. I am suggesting that if a woman worries about her husband being gay (and many do!), that they need a solid list of things to look for and that’s what I have provided.
3) As for computer use, almost every woman who has discovered that her husband is gay lists this as a common trait. It’s just too easy for men to connect to gays via pornography or chat rooms online.
4) Gyms used to be places for athletes to prepare for sports. Now, we have men who just pump up particular muscles without working out their entire bodies. Actual sports can be great workouts for muscles you would not think of standing in front of a mirror lifting weights. As for the sex part, I have a link in the article (NSFW!) that shows a gay man talking about how he has sex at the gym. It is quite common and if you were in the men’s locker room, you’d be aware of this. Particularly at the YMCA.
5) Travel: adultery when it happens, mostly happens outside the home. Many men use business trips for this purpose. Whether it’s gay or straight, it happens during travel. Differential is not adding anything to this idea here.
6) Not all females are sassy, but you certainly exhibit a bit of back talk when you post here.
7) A men who specifically goes shirtless in the company of other men should raise eyebrows. There is a type of guy who does this during the warm months, and you can see it at barbecues, etc. They drink beer and wrestle, etc. Women don’t have to be present for this to happen.
Thanks for the questions! I hope this clears up your confusion.
Stephenson Billings, Investigative Journalist
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“if a man is suffering from several of these points then yes, there should be cause for alarm.”
Alarm? I don’t think so.
“It’s just too easy for men to connect to gays via pornography or chat rooms online.”
Just like it’s easy for men to connect to other women via porn or online chat rooms.
“Gyms used to be places for athletes to prepare for sports.”
Well, too bad for you. Nowadays they’re for men and women to become physically fit without competition and aggression.
“I have a link in the article (NSFW!) that shows a gay man talking about how he has sex at the gym.”
WOW! One man? Well, that certainly means that ALL gays have sex in gyms.
“Not all females are sassy, but you certainly exhibit a bit of back talk when you post here.”
I’m simply employing my right to express my opinions to somebody who demonizes everything that I hold dear.
“Thanks for the questions! I hope this clears up your confusion.”
Don’t patronize me. I wasn’t confused about anything, you fat fuck.
“Stephenson Billings, Investigative Journalist”
I believe you mean “Stephenson Billings, Blogger”. Or have you simply forgotten the multitude of times that I’ve requested your credentials (which is well within my rights) and you’ve either sidestepped the issue, joked about it, or flat-out refused? So don’t pull that “Investigative Journalist” shit with me.
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Claire, I’m sorry but your reply was not constructive. You did not add much to the conversation here, just unfounded anger and silly back talk. What is your point? It doesn’t seem that you have one. You just want to scream, “I don’t like it!” I’m sorry about that, but for women dealing with issue this is important!
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“You just want to scream, “I don’t like it!””
Have you taken a look at your “articles” recently? If you’re not complaining about gays, you’re complaining about the Golden Girls, cats, video gamers, Betty White, music groups, masturbation, fag hags, Ghost Hunters, Bill Murray, or hipsters.
So, in essence, every single thing you’ve ever written for this site is screaming “I don’t like it!”
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claire may not have added a lot but then she doesn’t have to. you see there are 2 ways to argue like this. one is provideing a new argument. the other is debunking your oponets argument.
claire is doing the later. why provide new arguments when she might as well make all your arguments irrelvant.
and as claire said you yourself do nothing but scream i don’t like so you have basicly admited that you provide nothing what so ever when you post one of these articles.
it’s unhelpful and childish as you would say.
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Jazze, why must you always turning this into an argument about arguing?
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because that is basicly what this is.
when you provide belifs like this publicly you invite to an argument.
if you simply provided facts i would not be able to do this now would i? but this is openianted and biased belifs and as such when ever you bring it up and declare that this is how the world is or this is how we should live you have invited me and everyone else to opose you. that is how free speech work.
once again i’ll turn the blame back at you, why could you not just shut up when “the liberals” started tothat christian guy with the gay prostitute? or when people made zombie jesus jokes. or made fun of the pope. why did you have to turn that into an argument?
i told you why we do what we do. why is that so hard to understand?
free speech have consequnces, live with them.
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You wrote: “What is your point? It doesn’t seem that you have one. You just want to scream, “I don’t like it!” I’m sorry about that, but for women dealing with issue this is important!”
Hi, Stephenson Billings.
I am a woman dealing with this issue. Of course the issue in question is the fact that there are people that might read your article without thinking you’re a lunatic.
As Claire pointed out, where ARE your credentials? It’s ridiculous to claim you’re an investigative journalist and not have any… especially since investigative journalists conduct research (no this does not mean asking for anecdotes from a handful of women in your community) and deliver the TRUTH, which is completely absent in this article.
You can’t just put on the “investigative journalist” hat without submitting your work to some scrupulous fact-checking. Please publish the list of your sources.
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I am a womyn. I am married to a man. I grew up a tom-girl I love sports, I like working on my cars, and painting walls and fixing things. I love to have sex with my husband. I like porn, I love to watch two lesbians getting off! I love to make love to a womyn. I have 2 children. I love them. So please Analyze me! I need ur imput..Am I gay?
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Claire, my name is Amy and this post made me fall for you. >:U
This guy is simply incredible. His audacity to side-step around the issue YET AGAIN about him proving documents about being an investigative journalist made me come buckets. (In before he debates that women don’t ejaculate or have an orgasm.)
Keep fighting the good fight, sister. For now, I’ll sleep next to my straight husband. He might be gay though since he’s in the Navy. MANLY MENS EVERYWHERE. I’d go gay too (since it’s totally a choice to be what you’re attracted to) if I were around hawt mens with their little white hats.
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In before he debates that women don’t ejaculate or have an orgasm.
…are you serious….dude, i know you’re a guy and all but please have some knowledge of the female body before posting things like this…
and amy, can i have a link to that article?
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your so right dahling,
the greatest thing about gay being a choice is all the straight peoples who choose to be straight despite having those gay impulses
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Your source for the 2 million figure says:
“Along with other high-profile examples such as evangelist leader Ted Haggard and former Congressman Mike Huffington, there are an estimated 2 million to 4 million gay people who are or have been married to straight spouses.”
This says nothing about the number of gay man *currently* married to women. It only talks about *currently or previously* married couples. There might only be 1 million, 10,000 or none currently (yes, this is unlikely, but I don’t know the answer any more than you do).
Funny post though!
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LOL you heard someone speculate about 2 to 4 million and that’s your source. Glenn Beck said some university he couldn’t remember the name of said a million people showed up for his 9/12 thing, that was on tv too…people on the SciFi channel claim to hunt ghosts. Seriously, you’re basing an article on rumors?
Also, you seem very well versed in where gay men have sex and how to spot them. Has your wife read your article?
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My source is ABC News. That’s not good enough for you?
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No, the sloppy piece of trash that ABC tried to call journalism is not good enough. Ted Haggard said, well ok, that’s good enough! Seriously, can they explain how they got those figures? Blind surveys taken from a sample of what population? I can’t imagine Kinsey got people to open too easily about their private sex lives and it took years to collect his data, along with trust and compassion. Somehow I don’t see people being honest with someone as inflammatory as Ted Haggard and some congressman. Aside from a non-reputable source, which lacked its own sources to begin with (shame on ABC news!- have they heard of peer-reviewed scientific psychology journals? The answer to that will probably make me sad), the rest of your article is full of stereotypes and hatred. Of course it can’t be easy for a family that is dealing with a husband or wife coming out. But you sound as if homosexuals are barely human and are just out to hurt their poor defenseless stupid wives. Remember that underneath your bigotry, there are real people who love each other, even if it’s in a way you don’t understand, and they don’t need venom. You may think you’re helping, but do you really think telling women that their husbands lied to them and didn’t care if they hurt them is helping? It’s hard enough. I sincerely hope anyone going through something like this never finds your article.
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Yes, I agree SciFi Ghosthunters is indeed absurd. In fact, I has written extensively on that show.
Should the People Behind the SciFi Ghost Hunter TV Program Be Jailed For Fraud?
http://stephensonbillings.wordpress.com/2010/08/02/187/
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saying stupid stuff about gays without a cause is being a repressed homosexual.
Work your attitude and be a man.
By man i mean “have guts to declare ur gay”
or “have guts to accept that not everyone is like you”.
don’t give irrational hate a chance.
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As an actual practicing journalist who does investigative work, among other types and who’s been asked to speak in front of professional journalism groups and graduate schools of journalism, I’ll take issue with your article on strict journalistic grounds. (I dropped by because I know a lot of professional writers who are mocking the poor quality of the reporting.)
>> 1) Here’s the source for my 2 million number: “Along with other high-profile examples such as evangelist leader Ted Haggard and former Congressman Mike Huffington, there are an estimated 2 million to 4 million gay people who are or have been married to straight spouses.” — “The McGreevey Effect: Is Your Husband Gay?”, ABC News, April 24, 2007. <> 2) The differential diagnosis theory is relevant, but we’re talking about a combination of symptoms and factors here that a woman can use to identify if her husband is having a homosexual lifestyle. I’m not saying each and every point is ironclad, but if a man is suffering from several of these points then yes, there should be cause for alarm. I am suggesting that if a woman worries about her husband being gay (and many do!), that they need a solid list of things to look for and that’s what I have provided.<> 3) As for computer use, almost every woman who has discovered that her husband is gay lists this as a common trait. It’s just too easy for men to connect to gays via pornography or chat rooms online. <> 4) Gyms used to be places for athletes to prepare for sports. Now, we have men who just pump up particular muscles without working out their entire bodies. Actual sports can be great workouts for muscles you would not think of standing in front of a mirror lifting weights. As for the sex part, I have a link in the article (NSFW!) that shows a gay man talking about how he has sex at the gym. It is quite common and if you were in the men’s locker room, you’d be aware of this. Particularly at the YMCA. <> 5) Travel: adultery when it happens, mostly happens outside the home. Many men use business trips for this purpose. Whether it’s gay or straight, it happens during travel. Differential is not adding anything to this idea here.<> 6) Not all females are sassy, but you certainly exhibit a bit of back talk when you post here. <> 7) A men who specifically goes shirtless in the company of other men should raise eyebrows. There is a type of guy who does this during the warm months, and you can see it at barbecues, etc. They drink beer and wrestle, etc. Women don’t have to be present for this to happen. <<
Just as likely, if not more so, that one man is trying to establish pack dominance. Talk to any competent psychologist. Drinking beer and wrestling is supposed to be gay activity? My, you are really out to see without a paddle of reason at your side. You're so insistent on finding a gay under your pillow that you look at only one explanation. Or perhaps, with your apparent fear of types of contact that are actually normal among males, you are subconsciously worried about being gay yourself and so projecting.
That's neither here nor there, but it does completely undercut the article and your claim to be an investigative journalist. Until you're ready to question yourself, you're not ready to go to print.
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You insult my journalism skills with formatting that comes straight out of an insane asylum? Please don’t tell me you have experience in the “investigative” field. I can see right through you.
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You insult his journalism skills with logic that comes straight out of an insane asylum? Please don’t tell me you have experience in the “investigative” field. I can see right through you.
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“1) Here’s the source for my 2 million number: “Along with other high-profile examples such as evangelist leader Ted Haggard and former Congressman Mike Huffington, there are an estimated 2 million to 4 million gay people who are or have been married to straight spouses.” — “The McGreevey Effect: Is Your Husband Gay?”, ABC News, April 24, 2007. ”
Might I mention that this is not, actually, a source. You’re just passing the burden of proof to the writers of the article, and relying on the fact that ABC is a well-known news group to get people to ignore the flimsy ‘facts’ within the article.
The quote you provided was also making your same argument without providing proof:
“Along with other high-profile examples such as evangelist leader Ted Haggard and former Congressman Mike Huffington…”
Let’s set aside the fact that these people are highly biased and far from being capable of making any form of objective judgment. This statement relies on the “high-profile”, or status, of the individual as opposed to the credibility. Being a former-congressman does not make you an expert on sociological studies of homosexual behavior in heterosexual relationships. If anything, it makes you an expert on pretending to be an expert.
And, while theoretically possible that there is an expert of such caliber in the unidentified group to which ex-congressman Huffington and Evangelist leader Haggard belong, the fact that these well-known individuals were used to establish an air of credulity instead of a credible sociologist begs the question “why?”
I say because they probably didn’t have one.
“…there are an estimated 2 million to 4 million…”
Estimated? By whom? And is the number 2 million, 4 million, or somewhere in-between?
To start with, an estimation is nothing more than a guess; a statement made when there is not enough information to give a reliable answer that can be backed up with factual evidence.
Also, who made the estimate? The sentence alludes to the aforementioned group of random people as the ones making the estimate without actually saying that they said it. This, alone, would be reason enough to doubt the credulity of the statement.
Finally, where did the ever-present “they” get the number? What study shows that these numbers are anywhere near accurate? I’m sure even rudimentary grasp of the concept of a million shows that the gap between 2 and 4 million is mind-bogglingly huge. This large of a difference is obviously an attempt to cover all the bases. It’s like throwing a needle into a haystack and saying “somewhere in that haystack is a needle”.
Any critical-thinker could take any of these points and see that this is just a wild guess that some politician came up with to back up his own opinion instead of putting forward any effort to find real facts.
I’m not saying that there aren’t families that have this problem, because chances are that there are, but if you intend to prove it, you had better have something more than just “chances are”.
I also want to say that you should think more critically of what you read. To call this article a “source” is blatantly ignoring what a source is. A source is where the facts came from. the article you quote merely mentions a source, vague though it is. That means that it is not a source in and of itself. It makes no mention of a study or even a single hard fact.
As an investigative journalist, you have obviously failed in investigating anything involving this source. You have merely quoted another article instead of any scientific findings or facts. I ask that you start to critically think about what you read, ask for sources, and don’t act on findings unless they’ve been repeated reliably. This, alone, will improve your work as an “investigative journalist” to a level that will make you worthy of your (probably) self-given title.
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Rather ironic, since “YMCA” once stood for “Young Men’s Christian Association”.
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“4) Gyms used to be places for athletes to prepare for sports. Now, we have men who just pump up particular muscles without working out their entire bodies. Actual sports can be great workouts for muscles you would not think of standing in front of a mirror lifting weights.”
I, a heterosexual female, go to the gym because I want to work out my body but I don’t personally care for sports. I know a lot of guys, gay AND straight, who do the same. I know straight men who go to the gym to work out because they would like to play sports, but don’t have the time or aren’t able to commit. And I know gay men who are athletes. Personally, I’m insulted that you would like the gym to be only a place for athletes. America has a huge problem with people being overweight, and if anything we should encourage people to go to the gym, not give the impression that guys who go to the gym and don’t play sports are likely gay.
“As for the sex part, I have a link in the article (NSFW!) that shows a gay man talking about how he has sex at the gym. It is quite common and if you were in the men’s locker room, you’d be aware of this. Particularly at the YMCA.”
I went to a (Christian) middle school where the principal took advantage of his position in order to have a sexual relationship with one of the FEMALE students. I could cite articles that refer to this, and find you a few incidents from other schools where this happened. By your logic, because I know one guy who did this and can cite an article about it, clearly there needs to be panic that schoolteachers are molesting girls at every Christian school. And unlike you, I have personal experience in the matter because I went to the school at the time it happened. Your source is “one guy on a NSFW site said.” Even if gay sex was rampant in gym locker rooms, you can find even SFW sites where straight people claim to have had sex in places like the beach, a park, restaurant bathrooms, even Disneyland. Sex happens, gay or straight. Hide your kids, everyone, people are obviously getting it on in the Haunted Mansion at any given time.
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(7) A men who specifically goes shirtless in the company of other men should raise eyebrows. There is a type of guy who does this during the warm months, and you can see it at barbecues, etc. They drink beer and wrestle, etc. Women don’t have to be present for this to happen.
LOL Seriously? Here we call them “Rednecks”
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06) Ok, maybe it’s a bit sassy to comment your RUPER and FORMIDABLE list all of TRUTHS and RIGHFUL opinions, but the at least, we’re not enough sassy to put on a list of stupid and stereotyped statements. If there were least homophobic like your church, then women wouldn’t have to get affraid to marry a gay, because he wouldn’t keep it for him for fear of getting laughed at and intimitated!
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Claire,
I love you for the following:
“So you’re saying that females are sassy? Go fuck yourself with something hard and sand-papery.”
I also think that girls that are into SciFi are COOL (love me some Anne McCaffrey).
I would ask you to marry me if it weren’t for the fact that I am already married, to a MAN! And yes, I do suspect that my husband is gay.
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lol i love how nobody realizes this is satire
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You may read this drivel and comprehend it as satire because you realise how ridiculous it is.
The really sad thing is that there are people out there that believe these things. And not only do they believe it, but they spread it like a virus. And people out there listen to it and accept these ideas as truth and continue to spread the hate. It’s disgusting. I’d be interested to know how many homosexual people the author has as friends, or maybe not friends, but acquaintances. Does he say these hateful words to their face? Or are they not worth recognizing as contributing members of this society, because of their sexual preferences that they were BORN with? Heaven forbid.
It’s funny, because when I read this it makes me wonder what it was like back when racism was so accepted in society that people of color had to sit in a different section than those with white skin, and they were prohibited from going into stores or going to the same schools. It used to be said that people of colour were dirty and disease-filled and not equal to the whites. We know that to be untrue now, but back when it was happening, the people who said it really believed it to be true. I don’t doubt that Mr Billings believes himself to be right. And with freedom of speech, I can’t say that he shouldn’t have posted this “article” because that same freedom allows me to make my points as well. I wonder, however, if the gays *were* as easily identified by the colour of their skin, what would the world be like with people like this in it?
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are you aware this man lists “jersey shore” among his many conservative facebook interests? that’s a big red flashing “satire” signal right there.
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This author’s tone in his responses to commenters, along with the tone of other authors on this site, strongly suggests to me that nothing here is satire. Yes, it’s outrageous. It’s comical to most readers.
But if this is satire, it’s played too straight. Stereotypes and absurd topics do not satire make. It’s too close to the real attitudes of many people, so it’s indistinguishable from those attitudes. A sad state of affairs, but that’s how it is.
I would really like to believe this is satire, but… Everything on this site is so reflective of beliefs held by people I know that I can’t bring myself to believe it is satire.
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I’ll tell you something interesting. I have actually written on the subject of satire (link below) and I think you have no clue what you’re talking about. Don’t try this armchair psycho babble on me, you have no experience and do not know me as a person. Just because I have faith and am willing to speaking openly, you people run scared for the hills and throw up this stupidity at me. It’s pointless.
http://stephensonbillings.wordpress.com/2010/08/04/321/
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This author’s tone in his responses to commenters, along with the tone of other authors on this site, strongly suggests to me that nothing here is satire. Yes, it’s outrageous. It’s comical to most readers.
But if this is satire, it’s played too straight. Stereotypes and absurd topics do not satire make. It’s too close to the real attitudes of many people, so it’s indistinguishable from those attitudes. A sad state of affairs, but that’s how it is.
I would really like to believe this is satire, but… Everything on this site is so reflective of beliefs held by people I know that I can’t bring myself to believe it is satire.
What might convince me is the trumped-up alarm in many of the articles here. Such as in “Do Gay Pets Go To Heaven”… But it’s less ridiculous than the real trumped-up alarm spread by Sean Hannity, Glenn Beck, etc. Satire is supposed to expose absurdity by exaggerating the real situation. This site, if meant to be humor, understates reality.
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So what if I list something on my Facebook page? That doesn’t make any sense. In fact, I have often joined groups on Facebook in an effort to learn more about them, even if I disagree. It’s called be an investigator. You clearly missed the rest of my page that details my experience and my biography. Thanks for the garbage pail, I have to go empty it out now.
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Yes because everything on facebook should be taken as fact… >.>
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billings there’s one very important thing to note here. you have never had a realationship meaning you are anything but qualified to talk about this. you have no personal expirince what so ever and this entire article is based on asumptions. and you can’t use asumptions for shit.
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Any questions about specific issues, please let me know or else email me. Thank you!
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why would i want to ask you? my entire point is that you arte completly unqulified to talk to. you have no expirince.
as a matter of fact i’m as valid a source for facts on this subject as you are. i have the same abmout of expirince.
what we have here is a list of biased asumptions from a third party with nothing to suport it but the asumptions of other third parties and biased articles that will do anything to demonise this.
at best you have a few stories where it did occur but even then based on the same material amount i’d be more than able to make a similar article about how christians are very likely to be terrorists.
try not makeing asumptions.
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Hi, all my notes are composites from the various links I have provided at the end of the article, also from other experts. I have compiled a list and added some resources that I’m sure women will find helpful. As I mentioned before, if there is a specific item you have a question about, please provide the number from the list above. God bless.
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you are still not qualified why would i ask you a question? it’d be like asking my mom to explain quatem physichs i won’t get a reasonable answere that helps me.
yes you have sopurces but then you didn’t simply link to it you went on as if you were the expert despite haveing no expirince. further more all your experts have bias and as such can be completly disregarded.
why get relationship advice from a guy who have never had a relationship?
it defies common sense.
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You’re misinterpreting me if you think every male alcoholic is homosexual. However, every women who has discovered a homosexual husband has noted this as a common trait.
EVERY woman?? Really that begs for a citation to some real data. Non-believable even then…
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