Self Acceptance: How To Love Yourself Without Plastic Surgery
One way to stop focusing on flaws is to focus on one’s positive features. A person that is self conscious about his or her appearance should stop worrying about what is wrong with him or her and focus on what he or she likes about him or herself. For example, if a person has a large nose, but beautiful eyes, he or she needs to focus on the his or her beautiful eyes. Focusing on one’s attractive features is the first step in self acceptance.
Another way to learn to accept one’s self is to find unique ways to hide one’s flaws without surgery. For example, if a person has wrinkles, instead of getting a facelift, he or she can use makeup to cover them up. If a person has large ears, he or she can fix his or her hair into a style that hides them. There are many ways that a person can improve his or her appearance without having a risky surgery.
The last and most important step in self acceptance is positive self talk. A person that has low self esteem and feels bad about his or her appearance, needs to learn to tune out all negativity. This can be achieved by chanting endearing words to him or herself. For example, a person can tell him or herself, “I am beautiful just the way I am, I don’t need botox.” Words have wings and can play a huge role in self acceptance.
Everyone has a few flaws that he or she would like to change, but acceptance is key in learning to live with them. Self love and acceptance is needed to survive in this world, and once a person has accepted the way he or she is, that process is a whole lot easier. Our imperfections are what make us unique, so why change what makes us different from everyone else?
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7:33 pm
Most women look just fine without plastic surgery, though there are some who really do need it, especially after having a few kids.
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8:40 pm
Many of our female church followers have had their fake breasts removed.
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12:42 am
Yes. Because that’s just the thing to tell them. -rolls eyes-
Women are beautiful and need to accept that they can be absolutely stunning with or without makeup. They have no need to alter their bodies just to fit in with society’s “standards”, or to please some idiot of a man who learned what women ought to look like from beer commercials.
Honestly. This is exactly why I cannot stand most men.
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11:33 am
You just confessed that you are a lesbian! You’re going to Hell for that.
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12:39 pm
Sometimes though they are homely. When my wife has several kids and is all stretched out, I’ll allow her to get plastic surgery within reason so she’s still presentable to me in terms of physical beauty.
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3:20 pm
Fuddy Rogers: Did I specify my gender at all? No. Nor did I specify that I am attracted to women. Therefore, your statement is invalid.
Adam: If you truly loved your wife, you would not “allow her to get plastic surgery within reason so she’s still presentable… in terms of physical beauty”, to quote you directly. You wouldn’t care what she looked like at all, in fact, in terms of physical appearances. You would simply love her for who she is on the inside. Pretty sure they taught us back in Sunday School that God only cares about the inside, anyway.
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3:35 pm
God only cares about the inside of people. How would you explain all our Black Brothers being punished in Africa?
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3:36 pm
And if you are a man, you are showing that you despise men. (Wrath is a deadly sin)
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3:46 pm
How is God punishing people in Africa? Or, more specifically, how is YOUR god punishing people in Africa? It’s called life. I do believe that God gave people free will, and things like war, famine, and disease?
Humans cause war, famine and disease are caused by viruses and bacteria. God doesn’t cause any of that. If you can provide me with proof from a number of different, varied sources [both in the "liberal" and "conservative" media, and specifically from scientific and medical research papers] to the contrary, however, I would be most pleased.
And, why should I have to prove my gender? I can view men like you and many others as sick, chauvinistic people for the way you objectify women. That’s a viewpoint that someone of any gender can have. I did not say I hated men, or that I wished to take out my wrath upon them, but that I could not stand them. So I simply avoid contact with them wherever possible, and attempt to educate others who I cannot avoid. Here, however, I am making a special case.
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1:20 pm
I love myself several times a day without plastic surgery. Although I wish I could get my poopie hole widened so I can fit my fist deeper into it. Mmmmm.. I wanna fist myself elbow deep so I can get the freshest poopies out to eat!
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4:04 pm
Let’s face it. You’re going to Hell, RD. This site is trying to save you!
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8:45 pm
Care to elaborate on why, precisely, I am “going to Hell”? I’d love to know.
And, if this site is supposedly trying to “save” me, or anyone else, for that matter, why is it filled with such hatred and fear? Pretty sure Jesus said something about “love thy neighbour as yourself”. Along with some stuff about turning the other cheek and “judge not, lest ye be judged”.
BUT, HEY. I was only brought up in a religious [and, for your clarification, Christian] household and attend church every week myself. What would I know about Jesus, God, the Bible, and the like? I mean, really. I’ve always been told that Christianity was a religion of love, peace, and tolerance.
This must be some other religion.
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8:55 pm
Clearly you’re either a lesbian or a gay. That is why you are going to hell. You are too inquisitive about such trivial things. You should only focus on God and nothing else. I’m trying to save you using fear because you should fear burning forever in the lake of fire! Being burned is the most painful experience one can feel. You’re going to feel that unless you simplify yourself!
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9:16 pm
… Hang on a tick. You’re saying that I’m “either a lesbian or gay” because… why? Because I’m “too inquisitive about such trivial things”? I’ve yet to specify my gender or my romantic preferences, so such accusations of being a homosexual have no ground. They are idle accusations for the sake of it. Show me some proof, please. That’s all I ask of you here, that you back up your so-called “facts” in your comments and articles with documented evidence from a variety of sources, not just conservative fundamentalist ones. Any child who has passed through high school English will tell you that such a limited scope of sources would render your arguments and “facts”. Even my twelve-year-old brother knows better.
Yet, I only entered this discussion to point out that women can be beautiful regardless of their physical appearance, and do not need plastic surgery to be beautiful “after having a few kids”. They can be beautiful without having to conform to what society thinks a “beautiful female” should look like; such societal views lead to eating disorders and depression, and affect children as well as adults. My message was a message of love and tolerance. It was not a case of my being “too inquisitive about such trivial things”.
I ended my statement by saying that it was for that reason that I could not stand most men. I was almost immediately labeled as a lesbian, despite having not revealed my gender or romantic preferences, something which I still have done, and will not do, as it serves no point in this argument.
All I have done is point out my personal opinions on the matter of plastic surgery for women. I have not accused anyone of anything, and have simply asked for sources to verify facts [in a calm, friendly manner, even], and discussed the Christian teachings I was brought up with, teachings that I have been brought up with since my birth. I have questioned your religious views because, while you label them as “Christian”, it is a stark difference from the Christian viewpoints I know, the viewpoints I have seen other Christian people display.
All you lot have done is made accusations on my sexual preferences and told me that I am going to Hell. You have told me that this site is trying to save me “using fear because you should fear burning forever in the lake of fire! … You’re going to feel that unless you simplify yourself!”. Yet, I see no reason to being saved by fear. If I already accept Jesus as my Saviour, and the Christian God as my god, then wouldn’t I already be saved? I’m certain that any god, from any religion, would rather have me question others and have an open discussion on faith and beliefs rather than condemn all but a select handful to hell for daring to express an idea that differs from my own.
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9:48 am
Because of your dragged out rant there, I am praying that we will have a modern era Inquisition soon.
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12:42 pm
Lesbians and gays are so angry.
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1:44 pm
a Modern era inquisition PUHAHAHAHA you will die before even reaching people for heresy Bunch of wacko
Or maybe if you start controlling the army and inciting a martial law and curfew and Police states in USA and stripping everyone of freedom andKilling everyone who is Not a devious christian and doesn’t question the christian God. Than MAYBE you will have a modern era inquisition, but would the army or the People will accept that? I doubt that a Lot of soldier in the military are not even christian They fight for their country thats it even a Lot deserted when they went in afghanistan and iraq and discovered the truth yeah a Lot of american soldier
Maybe you don’t believe me just go see the US army report about that 2500 soldiers deserted and Hide in Canada in 2006 and it’s only the tip of the Iceberg
as you can see even your own army don’t share your Biased point of view they even discovered that it’s was not Muslim who attacked 9/11
I guess when people and or soldier who discover the truth lose faith in their own country or government they don’t follow you anymore
to the topic Leave RD alone you are just a Bunch of Homophobia asshole who know even Nothing about homosexuality
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2:22 pm
I’m starting to suspect that 98% of Canadians are going to go to Hell.
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11:38 pm
yeah sure because we are well accepted in the world we helped Much with your economy (yes without the canadian your economy would have been always Down
Military support also and a Lot of other thing as well Maybe like Invnetion like Telephone or Basketball or many food that you found Mostly In canada
yes sure we are going to Hell to bring happiness to the world Instead of hate and fear Like you do
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10:11 am
I am still seriously praying for you to learn English; God’s language.
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7:57 pm
god’s language I will pee On your God seriously what he has done to the world in the past 2000 years other than bullshit and destruction oh and hebrew is the God language Go learn history for your Bible for Once
and I’m french you freaking asshole so go get a life outside of your church for once ther eis a sun outside and No it’s not God it’s simply a BIG star in the Universe
oh and talking to me about english mistake half of the american doesn’t even proper speak english even chinese speak better than them and it’s not even their first language
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3:02 pm
Women, indeed, DO look beautiful, when they’re young and the Lord is preparing their bodies to accept a man in Holy matrimony.
When they get older, they become an abomination, regardless of their marital status. Hence, cosmetics… and if need be, cosmetic surgery.
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5:03 pm
May I just repeat the same statement that I have said several times already?
I have not specified either my gender nor my sexuality. For you to instantly categorise me as being a homosexual because I dare to say that women can be beautiful without requiring cosmetic surgery and discussing desire to debate your belief set, which I find to be quite angry and hateful, is just wrong. I have yet to insult any of you, but I will be the better person in this case and do as Christ said by turning the other cheek.
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5:45 pm
Come, child.
Be not bitter.
Take in the love of your Lord Jesus in the form of a stalwart and God fearing husband and be fruitful.
Abandon the ways of Sodom and bask in His eternal Holiness!
Praise Him!
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5:52 pm
Again.
I have not stated whether I am a man or woman. Therefore, your invitation for me to “Take in the love of your Lord Jesus in the form of a stalwart and God fearing husband and be fruitful. Abandon the ways of Sodom and bask in His eternal Holiness!” is rather absurd.
You are making the assumption that I am a female, and that I identify as a lesbian as well. Can’t a straight woman or man hold those same views that I hold? Or do only homosexual women question your hate-filled opinions?
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6:14 pm
Indeed, you SHOULD feel shame, child.
But whether or not you admit your wretchedness on this forum, the Lord knows.
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6:23 pm
I find it quite impossible to “feel shame” in regards to a topic that I did not bring up. It was you, and the others like you, who accused me of being a lesbian, because I dared to state that women were capable of being beautiful naturally, and that thinking that women had to physically alter their appearances to appease men was disgusting.
You seem like people who love the Bible, though. Do you know what the Bible says about beauty?
“Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Proverbs 31:30
“But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”” 1 Samuel 16:7
“And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:28-32
Your own Bible, your religious Holy Book, which you claim to be the word of God, speaks out in support of inner beauty repeatedly. How can you call yourselves “true Christians” and yet ignore those words?
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7:57 pm
The Word of the Lord is an abomination on the lips of a blasphemer!!
If your unholy misuse of your female parts, so lovingly bestowed upon you by our Lord God doesn’t send you tumbling into the fiery pits of eternal damnation, your callous and sinful appropriation of the Lord’s Word will!!
May his vengeance be swift!
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8:31 pm
…You know, you’re getting rather repetitive. I suppose I’ll have to repeat myself for the umpteenth time here.
I have not specified my gender or sexuality. For all you know, I could be a man. I could be a heterosexual woman. You don’t know.
Why are you so convinced that I am a lesbian?
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11:42 pm
They are trolling you forget it they are just a Bunch of trolling asshole who Know nothing to beauty or homosexuality or the world for the matter
tmost of the rel;igious wacko like these doesn’t even Know what is in their own Bible they don’t even Know the Backbone story Behind those “scene”
hopefully the religion is dying I hope would be faster as well You know if religion would not exist we would have cure to cancer and AIDS HIV and many more Uncurable disease as well and doN,t forget the technology the computer you are using now might have been Obsolete
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2:07 pm
I’ve said a special prayer on this wonderful day of the Lord’s Holy birth for the souls of you and your fellow Sodomites.
May He in His wisdom bring you a man strong enough to rend you from your evil ways.
God Bless!
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12:17 am
What the hizzell happened to Stephenson Bigglesworthy?
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7:59 pm
he got caught having sex with another man
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4:22 pm
I find it quite impossible to “feel shame” in regards to a topic that I did not bring up. It was you, and the others like you, who accused me of being a lesbian, because I dared to state that women were capable of being beautiful naturally, and that thinking that women had to physically alter their appearances to appease men was disgusting. You seem like people who love the Bible, though. Do you know what the Bible says about beauty? “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” 1 Peter 3:3-4 “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Proverbs 31:30 “But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”” 1 Samuel 16:7 “And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:28-32 Your own Bible, your religious Holy Book, which you claim to be the word of God, speaks out in support of inner beauty repeatedly. How can you call yourselves “true Christians” and yet ignore those words?
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2:29 pm
What gets me is how lesbians will go on and on trying to take the high road, but still too ashamed to just outright admit they are sinners.
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3:26 am
What gets me is how fundamentalists will go on and on trying to take the high road, but are still too ashamed to just outright admit they can’t make a valid point.
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