• A Question To You Men

    May 8, 2011 4:38 am 3 comments
  • Share on Tumblr
  • Share this Article


    From a reader named Meg (Meg!)


    First off, this is not hatemail. I would call it anti-hate mail.

    My name is Meaghan and I am a 20-year old Catholic woman who recently stumbled across your website. It brought up a real, honest question, and I would really appreciate your answer.

    But firstly, I want to submit that I have the same God as you, worship the same God. A God who did not write a gospel of hate.

    That is why I was so surprised and moved almost to tears by some of the articles I read on your site. There is so much hate contained in some of the words by your journalists. The open condemnation of millions of people, because of their race or their gender, even. As a woman, these quotes very much struck me (from an article entitled “What Women Want.”)

    “Any casual reader of the Bible should know what women want within only several pages of reading: forbidden fruit and the glittery enticement offered by Satan or any guy with a Swiss bank account.”

    “The problem is that women are fickle, perhaps inherent to being created second and not as complete as mankind. Eve was immediately lead into sin by Satan, a thieving snake who, mind you, was out in a secluded garden, alone, with a naked Eve and whispering sinful thoughts into your ear.”

    You see, this article has effectively reduced me to a sex object and a whorish idiot, just because I was born with a different set of chromosomes than the author. I attend an all-women’s college, where I am on the Dean’s List, having studied genetics, calculus, and the classics; I am in a happy and committed relationship with a (male) playwright, and I don’t feel the need or desire to entice anyone or fool them; my only goal right now is to finish the semester and return to my family for the summer (before I truck out again for my internship).
    But me aside, here is my question:
    How do you justify such blatant hate, when our God preaches, above all else – what Jesus himself cited as the most important teaching, mind you – to “love thy neighbor as thyself”? While I understand that we must avoid sinful acts in our own lives, how is it right to so blatantly condemn other people? Illegal immigrants, for example, might have no choice but to cross the border or watch their family die. I just don’t understand how much hate there is. My personal faith leads me to try my darndest to follow God’s teachings myself, but to know when to let him be the judge of others. I am not God and so I cannot condemn.
    One last pragmatic question: It seems like some of your articles, particularly the one entitled “What Women Want,” have the potential to alienate half your readership. How do you deal with that?
    I’m sorry if I’ve offended you; it wasn’t my intent, I promise. But I would very much like to have a dialogue about this. Thanks for your time.
    God bless,

    John 8:3-11
    3 The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group 4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” 6 They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.
    But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.
    9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman,[a] where are they? Has no one condemned you?”
    11 “No one, sir,” she said.
    “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”

    Pastor Gould responded!

    Dear Meg,

    What a beautiful name. Here are some scriptures to compliment the ones you dared try to flaunt here.

    Genesis 3:16 To the woman he said, “I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”

    1 Corinthians 11:5 And every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head–it is just as though her head were shaved.

    1 Corinthians 11:13 Judge for yourselves: Is it proper for a woman to pray to God with her head uncovered?

    1 Corinthians 14:21 In the Law it is written: “Through men of strange tongues and through the lips of foreigners I will speak to this people, but even then they will not listen to me,” says the Lord.

    1 Corinthians 14:35 If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church.

    Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.

    1 Timothy 2:11 A woman should learn in quietness and full submission.

    1 Timothy 2:12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent.

    Dear Meg,
    Thank you for taking the time to write in to us.  Your words are appreciated. 
    You are very correct when you state that God did not write a gospel of hate.  God’s word was written through the hand of mostly men inspired by his divinity.  There was the excpetion of a few remarkable women, such as Ruth and Esther.  But that is not the point today.
    In today’s liberal world, there is a bent — an orientation — toward twisting the words and intent of the Bible to comfort people in their sins.  Can you tell me that it is moral for a man to marry a man?  Is it Biblical and tolerated for a woman to marry a woman?
    There are laws in America and a law is that illegals cannot sneak into our country and destroy our economy.  Yet, my friend, happens.  Would God want us to uphold the fair law of this land, or to live in sin and harbor illegal Mexicans who refuse to pay taxes.
    Hopefully the tears you nearly had were not of sorrow, Meg.  In the article you read, What Women Want, our good friend Jenna was questioned for being in a questionable relationship.  The author goes into to make general statements and it is hard to see what is so offensive about those?
    Was not Eve beguiled by the serpent in the Garden of Eden?  Did Eve not tempt her husband to eat of the fruit?  Eve was the first human to fall to tempation and sin and she tricked her husband into joining her.  Women can be very domineering and it would seem Eve was the very first of the Susan B. Anthony line of testosterone toking women.
    I commend your parents that they raised you in a decent faith and put you in an all girl’s school for college.   The relationship you have with the thespian does worry me.  How do you know if he really love, or is he just a really, really good actor.
    If you look at Hollywood, you’ll see that at least 78% percent of the big name marriages end in divorce.  It is because they are all A-list actors with awards and can easily fake a scene of passion and love to their wife or husband, when in reality they are no good jezebels and harlots.  Be careful when dating an actor, friend.
    There is one actor who shines above them all.  His name is Satan.  He wears a different mask for each attempt at temption and it seems he’s renewed his SAG card so he can try to drag you to hell with presumptive thoughts, friend.  Satan is whispering in your ear, that is it mean to say illegals should go home or that women can be very fickle.  He wants you to question the Bible and turn away from the beautiful faith of Christianity.  Do what Eve failed to do and tell him NO.
    Tell him you have a heavenly father.
    Meg, you words are very kind and well-thought out.  Responses like yours are what we love to get.  A thinking person of great mind and good heart, looking for dialoguge.  We will definitely feature your message to us and make sure to tag it that it’s “anti-hate” mail, per your description.  Thank and I look forward to your response and further discussion on topic.  Be well, friend, and have a wonderful upcoming weekend.

    Dear Jack,
    I brought too many personal feelings and information to the table in my last e-mail. I’m sorry. I should have stuck to my initial question: why do you hate so much?

    And you now condone murder?!
    Today Is International Shoot-A-Mexican-If-He-Flies-A-Foreign-Flag-On-Our-Soil day
    “Why are we not allowed to shoot these people? This is nothing less than an insurgency and they should be dealt with like we did the rascals in Iraq and Afghanistan.Christwire believes the National Guard should be called in such celebrations in our homeland, lest the rape and murder caused by these roughians be impressed upon good Americans minding their own business.”
    The moment you publish articles saying it is alright to shoot ANYBODY, just kill them, murder them, I lost all respect for you and the God that says that’s alright. Because my god says “Thou shalt not kill.” Not “Thou shall not kill conservative white Christian men.” He meant what he said which is “Thou shalt not kill.” Note the period. I can respect your patriotism, your conservatism, and by stretching my imagination I understand that you have textual evidence to support your views on women. But this article supports both murder and racism, and I can’t understand that. I don’t even care if this article was meant sarcastically, because in that case it’s just sick.
    You must be a scared, scared man – scared of anyone different than you. I will gladly spend eternity in hell, eternal damnation, the devil torturing me forever, if the alternative is a heaven that is made up of only people like you – violently racist, misogynist bigots. There is no other way to put it.
    I mistook myself before when I thought I could open up a dialogue about this. It is affecting me too emotionally, so you won’t hear from me again. Thanks for responding the first time. I pray for YOUR soul, that you learn to love other people, EVEN THE WORST SINNERS, because that’s the gospel our mutual Messiah (I think) preached.
    God bless,
    P.S. My boyfriend’s not the actor, I am. He’s a writer, see. And there’s just another reason for me to wind up in hell. But you know what? I’ll let God be my judge, after I’ve had a successful drug and alcohol free career and a happy family, along with my other theatre-heathen friends. So please hold your tongue.

    Thanks for rating this! Now tell the world how you feel through social media. .
    How does this post make you feel?
    • Excited
    • Fascinated
    • Amused
    • Shocked
    • Sad
    • Angry
    About The Author
    Hatemailers This is a hatemail letter received from one of our readers. All last names and emails are removed from our letters to respect the privacy of our fans, even if they are too hardheaded to appreciate our advice. You can email us at holymailbox@christwire.org.

    Facebook Conversations