Recently, the tenor of conversations on Christian message boards and other forums has taken a decidedly crude tone. There is a profound lack of decorum among some people of faith when dealing with difficult topics. We would all be well to be reminded of this passage from Ephesians: “Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving” –Ephesians 5:3-4.
Some people turn to the internet not just to read the news but to interact with others. The growing popularity of message boards and social networking sites like Facebook allows people to express themselves quickly and openly. But this newfound openness can become problematic when one is not fully in control of one’s emotions. For women, this issue is particularly acute.
Have you ever turned on your computer in the morning to find a strange rant in your email box only to have the woman who sent it later apologize for “going off the handle”? Have you ever been stung by a paranoid or irrational accusation made on a social site? Have you ever stumbled on a distastefully graphic post made by a close friend in the dead of night? Is it not difficult to trust that woman again after such hurtful words? Written in an era before computer technology, the Bible speaks much about the contamination a female can spread when suffering through the intense surge of estrogen and mucosal pain during the menstrual cycle. She is considered unclean and many parts of the Old Testament instruct us to avoid contact with her pollution. The Bible makes clear that the menstruating woman poses a danger to those around her because of her physical instability and vengeful nature.
“And if a woman have an issue, and her issue in her flesh be blood, she shall be put apart seven days: and whosoever toucheth her shall be unclean until the even. And every thing that she lieth upon in her separation shall be unclean: every thing also that she sitteth upon shall be unclean. And whosoever toucheth her bed shall wash his clothes, and bathe himself in water, and be unclean until the even. And whosoever toucheth any thing that she sat upon shall wash his clothes, and bathe himself in water, and be unclean until the even. And if it be on her bed, or on any thing whereon she sitteth, when he toucheth it, he shall be unclean until the even. And the priest shall offer the one for a sin offering, and the other for a burnt offering; and the priest shall make an atonement for her before the LORD for the issue of her uncleanness.” –Leviticus 15:19-23, 30.
With the internet, the uncleanness of the woman can spread literally like a virus. Whereas in Biblical times, an unhappy girl would take out her volatility on her household by cooking a poor meal or leaving the laundry unfinished, the connectivity of the web allows the capriciousness of today’s females to be distributed all over the world in milliseconds. One can simply log on to her computer and type out the most vile and hateful comments imaginable. She can post photos she will undoubtedly regret. Unfortunately, many women today couple their web surfing with alcohol and this can result in truly regrettable results. Fortunately, most women do come down from the mental terror of their menstruation period and they almost always feel ashamed of the things they said so angrily online. This is one of the reasons the Facebook site makes it so easy to delete comments and postings. Other sites do not have the technology to do this.
Certainly, men can be equally guilty of posting negative messages online, but fortunately the male body does not have a physical architecture that regularly submits one to such frenzied, erratic psychological states. Studies have shown that women in this predicament are actually undergoing a period of intense mental illness. Modern legal systems even make allowances for the impairment a female suffers during her uteral tyranny.
Christian households should honestly and calmly address this issue. This should not be an opportunity for shouting and fighting, but one of healing and growth. Women must take it upon themselves to regulate their activities to protect their loved ones and their friends online. Husbands need to help guide their wives in this end and fathers surely can instruct their daughters about proper internet etiquette. In another era, parents had “Swear Jars” in their homes to discourage foul language. A similar arrangement could work for families today. Women could be made to place a few dollars in a glass bottle each time they violate these house laws. When a woman’s pocketbook suffers, she surely will take notice. As further enticement, if the sum grows to be large, the men of the house could use to money for something they need, like a television or football tickets. For single women living alone, they could install such a jar and respect it on the honor system. Any monies earned could be donated to a local charity or sent to one’s male siblings. Think of it as a small payment for all the years of fraternal love you knew growing up.
Remember women, forgoing negativity and bad language is one of the sacrifices that God asks of us. To be an adherent Christian, you must be committed to forgoing web usage when you are menstruating. Think of it as a small price to pay for the blessings of a happy, eternal soul.