Tips for Parents to Discuss Prom Night Safety with Your Teen
Prom night is a big night in every young girls life
By Rev. Billy Ray Sunday
High School Girls Correspondent
<chris†wire> With Spring in the air high schools girls are thinking about the big prom. It’s a grand time for these young girls who are easily caught up in the excitement. So now is a good time for parents to consider having that talk with your daughter about the importance of preserving her virtue.
Prom night is a big deal with all its pomp and promenade; girls are going to be busy with planning and preparation and your teen isn’t likely thinking about her personal safety or making a safety plan should the unthinkable occur. So its time for mom and dad to step up and be the parents; its time to have the talk with your child about boys and her personal safety.
For many parents this can be a difficult task so it’s important you remember to point out to your child that many teens are killed on prom night from drunk driving accidents, overdoses of street drugs, alcohol poisoning and so on. Then you should warn your daughter about older men who stake out local proms and watch for any girl who leaves alone by car or walking. Also let her know that rapes do occur on school grounds on prom night, sometimes by male students who attend the same school. Tragically these perverts have many ways to entice your little girl into their vehicle; sometimes just offering her a ride home is all its takes.
Since liquor, drugs and sex are known to sell movie tickets and rap music in the pop culture scene today expect your child to be bombarded with anti-Christian influences and deviant excesses. Teens can easily become overwhelmed and confused by this endless bombardment of temptations. Parents need to remember that the most dangerous of these influences is peer pressure. Peer pressure at this age has been the ruin of many young girls.
But prom night doesn’t have to become a parent’s worst nightmare; with some planning and a talk with your child she can be prepared to avoid dangerous situations, and will no how to react to peer pressure.
The High School Prom is exciting for everyone but dangers do exist
So here are a few tips to help parents plan for having that talk with your teens.
1. Initiate the conversation. If you’re a responsible parent you’ve already talked with your kids about the dangers of alcohol and drugs, so a follow up talk about prom night safety is a good idea since there are certain inherent dangers that go along with prom night.
2. Develop a safety plan. Sit down with your daughter and discuss several situations that may come up on prom night, such as someone bringing liquor to the prom, or finding herself in a car with a reckless or intoxicated driver. Teens who have been prepared for the unexpected will handle the situation much better especially if they have a safety plan in place that they can resort to in an emergency.
Establish a curfew for your teen and arraign specific times they should call home to check in. You can also use a prearranged code where your daughter can call in an unsafe situation and alert you to come pick her up without anyone around her knowing what she’s doing.
Of course there has to be some discussion about sex, boys and the importance of your daughter’s chastity being preserved. Empress upon your child the importance of her sacred womanhood and that it should never be treated casually. Should she be pressured into sex God will be displeased with her.
It’s important for your child to understand that her virginity is going to be of great value to the man she will marry for life. Should she behave recklessly or selflessly with her body and loose her precious virtue the chances for her to court a decent God-fearing Christian man to marry are nil. Christian men are not interested in used merchandise, high-mileage vaginas or blown out rear ends.
A Christian man will only consider a chaste Christian woman when considering his options to take a bride. He’s looking for a girl that’s respected herself enough to make certain she’s whole, pure of heart and in deed.
3. Watch your tone. Praise your daughter for her commitment to the family, her church and to God. You don’t want to talk down to your daughter so let her know that you’re aware she already knows these things but you feel it best to review them again before her big night out. Don’t lecture or preach teens have a way of tuning you out when they feel “they’ve heard it before.”
As parents you want to establish clear, firm guidelines and make it clear that you know she’s mature and responsible enough to stick to your rules. Do this in a caring way, then explain your concerns for her safety come from the fact that every year during prom season the news media reports on a number of young high school girls who’ve been abducted, sodomized, brutally raped, tortured and some murdered on their prom night. Others simply vanish and their fate sometimes is never known.
Spy Tech
Brick House offers tracking devices of various size to get the job done
Parents may want to consider options available today that were not available when they were in high school. There are many options for monitoring your child’s where-a-bouts. GPS tracking devices which include personal, vehicle, and cell tracking are available today. This hi-tech approach allows parents to locate their child 24/7 on your home’s computer or iPad devices.
But be warned many teens believe such technology to be an invasion of their privacy and view it as a sign that mom and dad doesn’t trust them. So the approach I suggest to use if you opt to take this route is to explain to your teen that such devices are installed to protect them. And overtime if your child is following the rules and displays maturity in their decision making you can reward them and let them know they are earning your trust.
Other Options
Does your little girl attend an urban high school with dangerous minorities?
I generally don’t recommend other options to most parents living in the better suburbs or in rural areas where crime isn’t as common. But if you live in a large city and your daughter attends school with other teens of various ethnic minorities who statically commit over 78% of reported felony crimes in the US there are still options available to you.
Under these circumstances extra precautionary measures are advised. I recommend a well built chastity belt that allows you to padlock the device onto your daughter so that only you can remove it. There are many models of various types but my recommendation is one of the following belts that are tough enough to take a pounding and still do the job.
The Cock Blocker 2200 is built to take a serious pounding
It can be difficult for teens to understand the dangers we all face today in the 21st century. Crime is up; terrorists live in our neighborhoods, bomb schools and kidnap innocent white high school girls who fetch top dollar on the black market in the world of sex slave trafficking. And until our children are old enough to fend for themselves in the outside world it’s our job as parents to support and protect them.
Respectfully submitted,
Rev. Billy Ray Sunday
Rev.Sunday@jesusanswers.com
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Author: Rev. Billy Ray
Rev. Billy Ray Sunday is 3rd generation preacher. He lives in Forkland, AL and is a journalist for chrisTwire.com.
10:06 pm
A chastity belt? what is this the 1800′s? if you trust your daighter to make good choices there is no need for that. I’m sorry but this article is Extremely racist. For being a christian you dont sound loving to these other minorities. the bible says god loves EVERYONE, not just white people.
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5:35 am
Jake i wear chastity belts but as a fetish not as a protection
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11:58 am
If people weren’t buying and using them, they wouldn’t make them! Clearly there’s a need and parents are concerned, despite what naked Alexis might claim (fetish? I don’t think so little lady).
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7:11 am
Awkward moment when Christfags review a fetish piece.
How would you suppose parents make their children wear one? That would be akin to sexual abuse, forcing someone to do something sexual that they do not wish to. So you’re either promoting sexual abuse or reviewing fetishwear, which one is it buddy?
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5:22 am
Two words: AWW YEA!
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5:15 pm
^haha xD
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10:49 pm
Yes I know Alexis. I commented on that very thing 1 or 2 days ago.
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10:24 pm
My prom date freely gave up her hairy flesh mound. After we finished, I had no respect for her any longer for giving in to her sexual urges.
I say this to the teenagers that read this Christian forum, her lack of virtue was a turn-off downer.
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10:34 pm
Yes, it was entirely her fault. Also, you neglect to mention that you also lost your virginity that night, so good job preserving yourself for your future wife. Kudos.
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12:43 am
Why are you doing teens anyways you old pedo?
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5:52 am
Young missy, I graduated half a semester early. Even the most brainless of dolts I talked to about this subject realize that I was reflecting on my prom when I was a teenager in high school.
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6:31 am
Are you coming on to me? Oh you!!!
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12:00 pm
In many Christian families in the South, the husbands tend to be a bit older. Often this is done to protect the females from the promiscuity that hits hard in the mid to late 20s. Best to catch them earlier than that. Younger females are also better child bearers, so there are things that are Biblically correct about such marriages.
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1:24 pm
You’re such a hypocrite. Human nature is “creepy” to you, but a bunch of animals crapping all over the floor? Well, that’s the sort of nature you just LOVE.
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1:35 pm
Whatever you do, Claire, just don’t get married to the first dirty skateboarder who proposes. You know we all think you’re special and want you to save yourself for someone especially intelligent and gifted and handsome. You deserve it, kiddo!
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10:26 pm
Jake you sound like a welfare dad already and I bet you don’t have a kid yet. Trusting your daughter is one thing, its all the horny dick out scurrying about on prom night anyone of which would rape you daughter in a heartbeat. Oh I’m… your generation was born emasculated. My bad.
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10:28 pm
You assume that every person around the corner is a rapist when you say shit like that.
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10:38 pm
Hint: He knows this because he’s one too.
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12:00 pm
Have you even seen the statistics on rape? This is not something to joke about, kids.
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1:50 pm
You sure you aren’t exaggerating things?
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5:17 pm
mr.bullshit You stupid fucking whore!
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10:47 pm
If your main concern is rape than why do you insist of only the parent in the situation being able to unlock the belt? Why can’t the daughter have the key her iron panties?
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12:44 am
It’s ok for him as a Rev he get’s all the little boy’s they dont need the belts he let’s them use his.
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12:01 pm
You have a disgusting imagination. Seriously, how old are you?
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4:43 pm
Reverends that say “horny dick” … sexy!!
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10:30 pm
Hey at the very least, TRUST between parents and their children is emphasized here. I mean look at that spy equipment!
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5:38 am
Hamsteak only use spy gear for spying on the people i hate not love
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10:43 pm
You are protecting your kids from the “scary outside” WITH A FUCKING CASTITY BELT?!?!?! this isn’t midievil times and that is borderline childabuse and a MAJOR invasion of privacy. You some sick fuck!
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10:47 pm
Well, OF COURSE, they need a chastity belt! It’s not like we could give them pepper spray, teach them self defense, or tell them to call the cops! No no no no no. That gives them way too much freedom, which is very wrong.
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10:51 pm
not only the freedom, but the happiness of the daughter isn’t all that important either. I know I wouldn’t be happy if I was wearing those uncomfortable metal peices of shit. But your right HamSteak, kids shouldn’t have freedom, trust with their parents, or the right to privacy!
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12:02 pm
Is “Ham Steak” a boy or a girl? His whining and complaints are too sarcastic and sassy. It really gets on my nerves. I wish I knew how to contact her mother.
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2:42 pm
If that wasn’t painfully obvious when I said that I was a female, then let me say it again: I am a girl. Next, I have not “whined or complained”, except when I was notifying this site about minor technical errors within the website. All I have done is found flaws within your arguement and stated them right here, which you have completely ignored. If anyone has been complaining it is you (i.e.”It really gets on my nerves”).
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10:48 pm
I remember prom night and the Seigel sisters. Too bad I was not born again at that point. I think about that night often. I would give my left arm if it would prevent today’s kids from partaking in the carnal pleasures I did that night.
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10:53 pm
yeah, I’m sure you’d prefer to fuck a 6 year old boy now, creeper
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10:54 pm
Then teach them about abstinance, so that they don’t grow up hating their parents for making them wear a chastity belt. Also, you only portrayed females as the issue here. Men also have teir own duty to restrain themselves for their dates. At the very least, try to write from both sides here.
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2:13 am
I did not attend my school’s prom because of the inappropriate harlotry I figured would be enacted. Indeed, I was correct, and a few months later hundreds of girls who attended the prom announced their pregnancies. I blame it on contraception-pushing sex education classes because if they were all abstinent, this wouldn’t have happened. Alas, prom has become an alcohol fuelled orgy for heathens who want to engage in premarital sexual activity and it’s just so disgusting.
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2:28 am
You must’ve gotten high or written some seriously bad hate-fiction if you think any of that is true.
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5:46 am
I went to mine but i was preganent so my husband helped me get in a dress and shoes on
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10:06 am
‘I blame it on contraception-pushing sex education classes’ you blame pregnancy on contraception? Doing it wrong bro.
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3:22 am
Another good idea if you put the gps tracker in before the chasity belt then she can’t take it out if she finds out she has one on…well i think she’ll notice but it’s an idea
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8:34 am
I remember my first prom…
The first time I ever tried the devil’s weed. In hindsight it may have been god’s way of preventing me from acting like a whorelot on the dance floor. In the end my date and I stuffed ourselves with hors d’oeuvres and watched a movie instead.
I will keep this advice in mind if my child ever decides to go to the prom, I wouldn’t want them to substitute an evil with a lesser evil like I had to.
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12:10 pm
First? How many teens have you chased down, lady killer? Laughing out loud! You go get ‘em!
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12:25 pm
Your stupidity gets more and more mind blowing with each day.
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12:12 pm
Oh god prom.
Hahahaha! I had no date, I went with about thirty of my friends, and we had our prom held at an arcade, so guess who kicked ass at the air hockey table? Also, my dad gave me pepper spray and a pocket knife to protect myself, not to mention I can break a couple jaws if needed.
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12:16 pm
“I had no date”
Big suprise.
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12:25 pm
Yeah, all the guys at my school are fucking idiots. I felt bad having to turn a couple of them down though.
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1:15 pm
Good job CelestialDeth!!! If more girls would follow your example by avoiding dangerous situations there would be far less rapes. Attending the prom in some neighborhoods is to risk death.
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1:38 pm
I agree, sometimes I find myself condemning CD, yet other times I can see myself in her shoes.
Favorite liberal for sure.
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3:18 pm
Despite the fact that we have established that I have no political stance so that I’m neither conservative nor liberal that actually kinda flattered me a little.
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12:18 pm
Your father sounds like a great man! Air hockey is truly a wondrous North American sport. Why can’t all proms be held at a penny arcade, hmmm? It will lower the rape/unwed pregnancy rates and raise the Pac-Man® scores, lol!
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12:27 pm
Well, it wasn’t a penny arcade, it was this big ass building that was kinda ridiculous but they had a separate room for games that was really awesome.
My father is the greatest man ever. He taught me how to crush a man’s nether regions with my foot, and then he got me steel toed shoes so it would hurt even more.
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12:36 pm
Claire said that about her dad, one of you is lying. I am way more inclined to believe Claire over you.
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12:46 pm
Is it that odd to you that a father would teach his daughter how to kick someone’s ass?
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12:50 pm
“My father is the greatest man ever”
Please try to keep up.
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12:52 pm
Again, how is it odd to you that a father would teach his daughter how to kick ass and defend herself? Apparently you hate women so much that you want them to be weak and defenseless and unable to fight for themselves.
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12:57 pm
It’s not odd at all. And I never said it was. You are even slower than I thought.
I myself taught my daughter (the one you think doesn’t exist and is a whore at the same time) how to handle firearms responsibly at a very young age.
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1:16 pm
Claire, you said your dad was the best father in the world. That is what I was referring to.
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1:33 pm
And I said I believe you over CD. She’s crazy. Your father does sound like an ok dude from what you have said about him.
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1:44 pm
You probably missed the night she went nuts with several accounts.
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1:50 pm
August, be wise for once and stop mentioning that.
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1:53 pm
Says the true nut who thinks me and my family are fake, yet I killed someone even though I don’t exist.
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1:57 pm
Wow, so now you have to go and make stuff up about what I said? Where did I say you didn’t exist? You really ARE running of steam, aren’t you? Pathetic.
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3:16 pm
August, why don’t you try to keep up? Claire said she had the best FATHER in the world. I said my dad was the Greatest MAN ever.
Different definitions, different contexts.
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3:45 pm
CD, you are bipolar, please just fly away.
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3:51 pm
August, lay off the booze for once.
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4:04 pm
And you say I’m crazy, August, you do know that human beings can’t fly right?
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4:18 pm
Typical.
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12:47 pm
What exactly happened on the hockey table? Did you orally stimulate someone or was it rape? I’m confused and concerned for your welfare.
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12:53 pm
They played air hockey, is that really so difficult for you to comprehend?
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3:23 pm
I didn’t need that image in my head.
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10:54 pm
I like this image!
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11:32 pm
EW!
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1:42 pm
I never saw the point of prom in the first place anyway. Seems like a waste of time and money… At least my prom was a waste of time and money….
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1:46 pm
I can just imagine the reaction when you turned up at your prom with that guy you live “in a totally platonic relationship with.” It probably did seem like a waste of money.
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3:28 pm
Stop confusing your prom with other people’s.
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1:56 pm
Dont listen to emo music and don’t be whorelots, always good advice for the youth.
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2:49 pm
Ermm…Where did this come from? The last topic on hand was prom night.
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6:24 pm
Ham you ought to listen to her. She’s wise and knows what she’s talking about. A little respect for your elders can go along way around here.
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6:32 pm
I wasn’t disrespecting her, merely questioning where it came from.
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6:43 pm
Again with the disrespect? You should listen to the good Reverend.
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6:51 pm
Where have I disrespected her? I asked where was this topic brought up in the discussion. It was pure curiosity that brought that up, not “Oh wow! An old lady! Time to pick on her because I’m an emosexual!”
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9:44 pm
whats emo music you dead mother fucker
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10:35 pm
@Alexis – You talking to me whore?
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5:41 am
@Rev. Billy Ray: STFU, why do you have to resort to calling someone a whore, is your IQ so low thak you resort to making the shittest retorts. First can’t spell Yuck, then this, what next?
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10:44 am
@ AtheistandProud, I looked at her avatar image and she looks like a whore in that slutty outfit. What do you not understand?
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8:22 pm
What is emo music Billy ray and im not calling rev. because the rev is already taken to a dead guy!
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4:59 am
“whats emo music”
It’s an oxymoron.
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5:52 am
Have you no decency or respect for the dead, young lady? I shall pray for your soul.
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10:52 pm
@Alexis who cares?
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5:39 am
@Ham: One sign of getting old: Speaking about one topic when others are talking about something totally different
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11:06 pm
Please, they’re all perverts here. Don’t put it past them.
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12:47 am
With there hand behind there back’s OH YA!!!!!!
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1:05 am
Claire – Yes that hole you mention is for human waste to pass through. No large mess though… She don’t like it she caN hose herself off.
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12:04 pm
Claire, you bring up a great point! I hope there’s an outlet for fecal matter because otherwise it could get very uncomfortable, I know. Actually, some of these devices come with space for an adult diaper which need to be quite absorbent and if you already have a large frame, that much extra material around the buttocks looks odd when you’re out in public.
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1:27 pm
He’s looking for a healthy moral relatioship. Are you really so against marriage?
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1:32 pm
I wasn’t even invited, Claire! Laughing out loud, but seriously if you ever need a chaperone for one of these things I’ll gladly help out if I can make the travel arrangements.
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3:25 pm
Yup, and let me tell you, I killed a lot more aliens than I was expecting to kill at Prom. And then after we went to the beach. The only reason prom was fun was because me and my friends all went together in one limo, and it was people I’ve known since mother fucking pre-school. It was really awesome.
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3:59 pm
Alright, I’m copying your prom now.
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4:01 pm
Minus Billing’s weird fantasies.
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4:05 pm
Yup, always minus the weird fantasies. Good choice.
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10:40 am
Claire you are one pissed off foul mouth young lady. I encourage you to seek out professional help. Or you can ask your local church for counseling. We Christians do care but at some point you must take action to raise yourself over the rage and hostility you keep bottled up inside. You’re in my prayers this morning.
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