• Is My Husband Cheating on Me by Violating Fresh Produce?

    June 1, 2012 3:13 pm 33 comments
  • Share on Tumblr
  • Security Camera Footage Exposes Husband Cheating on His Wife

    By Annabelle Koch

    <chrisTwire> Occasionally I will receive an email from readers who ask for advice or for my opinion on a personal matter. Last week I received an email which reads…

    Dear Annabelle,

    My husband and I recently relocated to Phoenix, AZ and purchased a nice home in a good neighborhood. We had a security system installed which included interior and exterior surveillance cameras that allows you to link to your surveillance system from the Internet or from your i-Pad.

    We’d been in our new home for about two months when something happened that hurt and embarrassed me. I was working the swing shift at the Maricopa Medical Center and took my break around 7:30 pm and sat with a co-worker in the cafeteria. I was explaining to her how our security system worked and offered to show her how easy it is for me to log on and link to the interior cameras in my home using my i-Pad.

    At that hour my husband (who works the day shift) is usually home watching TV or is on the computer. After logging into my account I linked up to the cameras in my home and was showing my friend how I could move from room to room wherever the cameras were installed. I first scanned the front door and then showed her my kitchen.

    Then I switched to the living room camera and was shocked to see my husband sitting on the sofa fornicating with fresh produce. My friend saw this leaving me terribly embarrassed and very angry. While she has been good natured about the whole humbling experience I have not brought it up with my husband and don’t know how to.

    Should I treat this incident as a casual matter, dismissing it as sinful but simple masturbation? Should I even mention it at all? Or does this qualify as my husband cheating on me? We are Christians and I know masturbation is a sin of course as is adultery, but does this count? Has my husband violated the scared bonds of our marriage in God’s eyes?


    Phoenix, AZ

    Dear Uncertain in Phoenix,

    Thank you for emailing me for advice. This question comes up more often than you’d think, though mostly it involves secular worldly couples who do often dismiss this sort of thing as harmless. But Scripture is clear about how God see’s this disturbing behavior.
    Scripture tells us to flee from fornication from all others than your spouse, if not we have sinned against ourselves according to 1 Corinthians 6:18 (KJV)… “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”

    In Revelation 21:8 (KJV) the Holy Scripture states…
    8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.

    According to Scripture your husband’s sinful ways would make him an idolater or, one who shows excessive admiration or love for somebody or something. And our Lord’s message is very clear when it comes to idolaters. 1 Corinthians 6:8-10 (KJV) says… “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind.”

    I could continue citing Scripture all day but I believe you already know it would serve no purpose.
    To answer your question, yes your husband has indeed broken his vows to you and God. He also violated the sanctity of marriage in God’s eyes, not to mention ruining a perfectly good watermelon. Your husband must atone for his deviant act; he must pay a penance to the Lord for his wickedness. Otherwise he will never go to Heaven.
    I don’t know if you have children, if so I think you must ask yourself some serious questions… Is this the man I want to spend eternity with? Is this the man I want raising my children? Do I want to be married to a man who will not be joining me in Heaven after we pass from this world?

    Of course this maybe an isolated incident in which case he can pray for God’s wisdom and forgiveness. Your husband must first wash himself in the blood of Jesus Christ before he can be forgiven. A more frightening possibility is that your husband has become possessed by some demon from hell. In this case an exorcism may be required.
    Good luck to you and know you’re both in my prayers. The decision on how to proceed from here is yours. You might want to contact a local minister in your area to consult with first.

    In His service,
    Annabelle Koch

    Thanks for rating this! Now tell the world how you feel through social media. .
    How does this post make you feel?
    • Excited
    • Fascinated
    • Amused
    • Shocked
    • Sad
    • Angry
    About The Author
    Annabelle Koch Annabelle Koch lives in Seattle, Wa. with her husband Chip. They have been married for 36 years. Annabelle has three children and 8 grandchildren. A retired music teacher, Annabelle writes a weekly column for the Seattle Times, and is president of the Woman's Christian Consortium. She also writes for the conservative Christian Website, ChrisTwire.

    Facebook Conversations