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My Christian Son Wants A Sex Change, What Do I Do?

Hi Amber,
I’d only just found your work on ChristWire and I was wondering if you could assist me with a question.

I have a son who has ‘come out’ to us as transgender, believing that he is a ‘girl trapped in a boy’s body’. Granted, my wife and I have been trying to give this very serious thought as to what has happened to cause our son to think this.

We have been doing our best to raise him under the Lord, and he says he still loves God. Can you offer any advice on what I can do to help him? Do we help our son become our daughter? Signed, Confused in CA

Dear Confused,
I truly sympathize for you and your wife, as you have a tough task ahead of you in correcting the errant thoughts of your sin-child.

Your son’s desire to be a girl is very unnatural, and scripture warns us it is also an abomination to natural order. The inclination of homosexuality is not genetic, but a choice one makes in life.

As a father, it is your responsibility to help your teen make the right choices in life. You need to let your son know that his desire to be a girl is disgusting and an offense.Do not be soft with him, as a boy in his position needs very stern guiding.

Your son’s gender confusion could be the result of being exposed to homosexual media on television, peers at school or even a way of trying to ‘gain your attention’, as teens tend to do.

Your son must understand that he cannot love the Lord as he claims and want to be gay or transgender. Such a choice in life gateways into a lifestyle of sin and immoral fornication, the implications of which he cannot imagine.

So sit down and tell your son ‘No’ to his desire to be gay, just as if he asked you if it was ‘ok to do cocaine’. This is all the same, and when you’re sitting with your son pray for his mind, so that he can be delivered from this strange perversion. You and your wife should also consider speaking to your clergy about good psychologists in your area, as your son’s mental condition may have been caused by some guilt or psychological trauma he’s hiding from you.
-Amber

Dear Amber:
Good evening. My name is Isabelle and I come to this country 4 months ago with the promise of a good-paying job. My intentions were to work in this country for a few years and then buy a house so that my families can come and share in the same opportunities I have experienced. I go to immigration office, obtain a visa, and come here with my worker’s permit.

The man who helped finance my journey to this wonderful country did not give me the job he promised. He told me that I would be a model for woman’s clothing (of course it would be modest clothings!). I was told that this would be a great way to promote new conservatives fashion to the young people in this country.

However, when I came to this wonderful land, I was heartbroken. First, I find that the parish that I wanted to join did not exist because it burn down 1 year ago. Then, I was told that I had to surrender my work papers to the man that paid for my journey. Then, he told me that I could not start the modeling job until I do some very bad things first.

…I need your advice Amber. I want to be a hard-working American like I see in the pictures but now my hopes are dashed. I want to be a part of this wonderful country, but is it worth it to use my body in order to do that? How do I deal with my boss to tell him I’m uncomfortable with being a pleasurewoman? Thank you very much, and I hope to hear from you soon! God bless you and your family.

Isabelle

Dear Isabelle,
I fear for your life and safety. I am not sure where you are at in America, but you need to immediately contact your local authorities (police) and talk to them about your situation.

I do not know if you are here legally or not, but whatever the case, being deported back to your own country is far better than what can happen to you. Every year, in essentially every country, women (usually travelers or immigrants like yourself) are tricked into submission, abducted and eventually forced into sexual slavery.

An estimated 500,000 to 800,000 young women are forced into sexual markets, worldwide, each year. They often end up never seen again, or found to be murdered or overdosed on drugs. Isabelle, wherever you are immediately contact the authorities and talk to them.

Your family loves you and would rather have you back home than allowing your body to be abused and to be trafficked into a life of pain then death. I wish you all the best, and please also visit these resources after you call the police. I want you to know that you are not all alone and good people will help you. -Amber

Dear Amber,
I am a young 17 year old girl who is very active in my local church. I have recently begun reading Harry Potter, but my whole church considers it filled with evil values. What do I do? Keep on reading? – Conflicted

Dear Conflicted,
Your church is correct. In addition to promoting sorcery and magic, Harry Potter also promotes homosexuality and anti-Christian bigotry. Various sources assert that the actor who portrayed the gay magician frequently spent time alone with the young actors of the movie, to ‘discuss’ homosexual material.

There is much documentation on how this movie is wrong and will put your soul in danger. Every major Christian network has protested the Harry Potter books and movies, the Pope has denounced it and various journalists have discussed its danger to teens, family and culture in great detail.

You must realize that even at 17, despite feeling like a well-informed adult you are indeed still very young and have much to learn about life. Your church leaders have your best interests at heart and you should not be in the habit of questioning your church’s teachings. That puts you in a position to fall into dangerous habits and developing a rebellious attitude.

There are many dangers in this world and being obedient to wisdom, determined by doctrine and faith from your leaders, is the best way to ensure you grow into a beautiful young woman of compassion and strong moral bearing.
- Amber

Hi Amber!,
My husband and I love you and wanted your take on a big question that’s come up for us, which is where to send our daughter for school?

My daughter is absolutely brilliant and is graduating this year with top grades, and colleges are sending her mounds of recruitment mail and phone calls every single day. We are split three ways on where she should go.

My girl wants to go out of state to New York, my husband wants her at a local, private university and I think she should stay in state at least the first year, at either a private of public school. She has many options and problem is limiting them down, in a good and responsible manner.

This is our first girl so we are all stressing! I would greatly appreciate your thoughts on the matter.
-Proud Mom in Los Angeles

Dear Proud Mom,
This is truly one of the most proud and exciting times for parents. To hear that your daughter achieved great academic merit and is gearing up for a successful transition to college is wonderful.

I notice that both you and your husband have some reservations about sending her too far off. It seems you are still compromising for both sides of the decision, by trying to respect your daughter’s natural desire to ‘move far away’ (teens use ‘go out of state’ for their euphemism ) and your husbands instinctual response to keep his daughter close at home, under his protection.

What you need to do is first pray and ask God for guidance in opening the right doors. He will set your daughter’s path. I personally agree with your husband in that your daughter should go to a local, private, Christian university.

Public schools are full of dangers such as heavy drug use, no set visiting hours, wild fraternity parties, an increased incidence of violence, rape and many other things that could ruin your daughter’s life.

I would encourage you to focus your search on quality Christian schools and set up times to tour their campuses. I notice you are from the L.A. area, and that would be the first place you should start looking at schools that will provide your daughter a terrific education and the moral protection that naturally comes with a private, Christian college. Best of luck with your decision!
-Amber

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Is It Ok For My Christian Daughter To Masturbate?

Dear Amber,
I first want to say I’m a really big fan of your work on ChristWire and really enjoy your insight into our world’s pressing issues. The question I have for you today is really embarrassing, but I hope that by asking it here I can help other parents out there too.

Some time ago my daughter forgot to take her laundry from the dryer before taking off for volleyball practice, so I folded them up and went to put them up for her in room.

When I reached in her undergarment drawer and I will be frank, my heart dropped as I found one of those electronic phallic objects in it. They are used to ‘M’ and I didn’t know how to handle the situation. I thought to ask my husband, but didn’t want him to have to go through the embarrassment and anguish of such things. I instead asked several of my close girlfriends, some of who are not Christians, and some of them said this was a normal part of a healthy teen’s lifestyle.

The night I decided to talk to my daughter about all this, I heard well…I heard reason to not go in the room. I believe she was using the device then. Is this really alright behavior for a good girl or do I need to confront her? Please help!

- Concerned in San Diego

Dear Concerned in San Diego,
You need to immediately take that sinful device from your daughter. Masturbation is another form of pornography that will infest your daughter’s mind and serve as a gateway to far worse sexual activities.

Studies show that 87% of the women who become prostitutes did so because of unbridled masturbation as a teenager, and over 90% of girls who become pregnant as teenagers did so because of masturbation loosened their morals and made them more apt to engage in unprotected fornication.

Masturbation will make your daughter very comfortable exploring her body, and it will not be long until she begins to envision other people partaking in the deviant behavior with her.

This will of course lead to your daughter seeking out a male companion, or even female. As a teenager, your daughter’s mind is not yet developed enough to handle the pressures and responsibilities of being sexually active. It will lead to great sorrow in her life if you don’t put a stop to it right now.

So first, have a talk with your daughter and pray with her. Pray all that sinful desire of masturbation right out of her heart. Throw the device away, and then enroll her in some abstinence counseling sessions. These will teach your daughter the value and need of respecting her body until marriage. Masturbation is very unnatural and by taking proactive steps to get this bizarre behavior out of your teen’s life, you’ll ensure she has a better future.
-Amber

Hi Amber!

Help! I’m currently trying to impress a young lady that I’d like to ask to my spring formal. She’s truly special and I thought that maybe asking her on a few dates ahead of time, then showering her with gifts would warm her heart to me so when I ask her, she’ll well know my intentions and heart. Any suggestions on what to do in particular would be great. Thanks!

M.B., Maryland

Hi MB!,

Young love is truly exciting and what you’ve planned to do sounds truly wonderful. I suggest many, many chocolates and don’t just ask her on dinner dates. Mix it up! Ask her out to breakfast or lunch. Learn her interests and then set up a date or two that revolves around those too. Do things as friends and let your relationship progress from there.
-Amber

Dear Amber,
My family are very devout Christians (I don’t even know if there was a generation of ust that wasn’t) and my father is also a pastor. I recently met a charming boy who I love dearly and in my heart I feel we can really go great places together, he’s wonderful.

The problem is that he is Muslim and my family do have a problem with trust, call them very patriotic. How do I explain to my family that they have to get to know the person and not judge on outside prejudice?

- Wisconsin girl in love

Dear Wisconsin Love,

Your parents love you with all their heart and are looking out for your best interest. Many people do not realize this, but the threat of Homegrown Terrorism is very, very high and every neighborhood may have an American jihadist traitor lurking about.

Jihad USA: Confronting the threat of homegrown terror is an excellent piece that will open your eyes against this very serious threat to America and potentially to your life.

Imagine the sorrow in your parents hearts if this young man is one of the hundreds of millions of Muslims who could potentially be working with homegrown terrorists, and he did something to harm you. Would that not be a cruel fate to place on your parents?

That is their concern, Wisconsin Girl. When you’re young it’s really easy to want to combat your parents and not take their word to heart. But know they are always looking out for your best interests and something in their guts is telling them, “no, no, no”.

So talk to them more about their views on terrorists in America and ask the young man about it too. If he becomes upset with you asking and gets offended, run! He may be guilty. Your parents love you and someone else does too, Wisconsin Girl.

- Amber

Dear Ms. Cooper,

My son loves video games! I know that there are many bad games out there that cause violence in our youth, but my boy really loves playing games (arcades, handheld, computer) and is a tech wiz. My wife and I would like to get him a really nice new gaming set and television for his upcoming bday (his grades are really awesome too) and feel he would appreciate it. What games can we get to go with his gift?

Jim R., S.D.

Dear Jim R.,

It is great to hear about your son’s grades and to also know that you and your wife are reinforcing his interests and achievements with responsible parental glee. Today too many parents buy entertainment systems for their children without properly taking review into what their kid’s are getting for their personal computers and video gaming machines.

I should also mention that many video games do indeed inspire the desire for violence, terrorism and hedonistic acts in teenager. Therefore you should surely limit your son’s gaming time, even when playing a good Christian reviewed game, to no more than three or four hours per week.

Also remember this. For every hour your play, two hours you pray!

Your teen will love the extra prayer time and video games can be great fun for the entire family as well. My family recently bought the Wii and we are enjoying the Wii sports options on it.

There are also two great sites you should look at!
Christian Centered Gamer
Plain Games
Guide 2 Games (Though some of their reviews are a bit too secular and do not use enough scrutiny)

These sites are invaluable when looking for new (or old) gaming options for your teens.

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My Wife is Smoking Hot, But Had Sexual Cheating With Another Man – What to do?

Hello, good friends, Joe P. Reagan here. Hopefully everyone is having a good mid-week. As always, there is another question that has filled my inquisitive mind. This time it’s more of a conundrum, if you will. What on Earth does a man do when his disproportionately smoking hot wife decides to cheat on him, yet wants him back?

Now, to start things off, the answer to this question for many here would seem quite simple and immediate. To save 1,000 words, a picture:

Again, pardon the crassness, but that’s just the natural order of society sometimes. Receiving a right and proper Connery style slap should not come as a surprise in such a situation. So what’s the backstory of today’s question? Is old Joe having relationship problems?

Not at all, friends, there is no cause of concern from my end, but it seems today one of our fellow men is on the road of misery, at the hands of a young, hot buxome blonde female who has no honor. It’s of course our place to be armchair captains and give our fellow man advice.

Meet Lauren Cleri, a 26-year-old woman who appeared sometime ago on a reality tv show ‘Moment of Truth’. The show is hosted by none other than Mark Wahlberg.

The premise of this show is that people come on air and reveal juicy, juicy secrets that would give a guild of gossiping church women a case of carnal jollies. These are supposed to be the type of personal secrets that would put new information about the tinfoil-hat-claimed JFK assassination cover-up into yawn worthy territory.

So on strides the token blonde wife, named Lauren. Only 26. She is the wife of a young NYPD officer who is named Frank Cleri, a 24-year-old bloke. What could Ms. Lauren possibly have to tell Frank, and the rest of the world, that would be worth netting $100,000 for every ‘truth’ she revealed about herself? Yeah, that’s the payout. $100,000 for every question you honestly answer and a polygraph test.

Keep in mind all of Frank’s buddies at the precinct are probably watching the show. His mom probably popped some popcorn and was in the easy chair, waiting to see her baby on TV. Grandma Edna visisted from the nursing home to see her grandson on the moving pictures.

With such a nice gathering of family and friends, and along with 8 million other viewers, Lauren Cleri unleashed this paraphrased dagger: “I’ve been sleeping around and want to wed another man.” “I’m telling this so I can have fame and fortune.” This is me kidding you not. What is a person to do? Sean Connery, any suggestions?

Indeed. Now, according to various reports (cited at the end), Frank had some knowledge that his wife had been playing the field. That’s tough enough to work through. What he didn’t know is that she was going to suggest they take her cheating public to get some money off this show, yet he still agreed to the premise of it.

On the show’s air date, there were of course surprises lined up for Mr. Cleri. Lauren’s ex boyfriend made a cameo appearance, as himself! The question he asked: “Do you believe I am the man you should be married to?” Of course, Lauren says yes, the polygraph registers her as telling the truth, and she gets $100,000. Sweet. Frank was grimacing, but who cares, right? More stuff happened, but in the end karma smacked Lauren and she received no money for lying on the question, “Do you think you’re a good person.” She said yes, the polygraph disagreed.

The point today is not really the story from this latest dreg of a show, but moreso the implications raised by such a show. My initial question: “What do you do when you find your smoking hot wife has been cheating on you?” has many possible answers. One I don’t think should be the answer is “Go on national TV and let network executives nationally exploit and humiliate you to turn a profit, all the while making light of the fact your wife is cheating on you…a lot.” Is our culture really at the point to where we make stuff like this our evening entertainment?

The fact that we have yet another show that encourages society to revel in cheating relationships, as our divorce rate sharply rises and rate of commitment to relationships bottom out, is disheartening at best. There is a time for nudge-nudge wink-wink bachelor humor at infidelity, but then there is a time to hang that crap up and get serious.

This goes for both men and women. There is nothing funny about infidelity and it should not be the center piece of a prime-time television show. At the base of things from the story, I could sympathize with Frank. The harlot cheated on him, he’s feeling down and out, and he goes along with her scheme to profit off her being a skank. Somewhat understandable. I could see myself potentially wanting to somehow profit from the worst of possible situations (they had apparently planned to split prize money 50/50).

So what’s the ideal thing to do in such a situation? It’s to rise above the circumstance and put the stuff either beneath you or work through it. For such a young and single couple, Frank should have told the woman to kick rocks as soon as he found out and scrogged her best friend or hot cousin for good measure. Ok, maybe not the second part. Seriously, he should have hit the divorce court as soon as possible and got her ass documented as cheating so he could come out on top after the split. That’s the bottom line. Once someone is a cheater, they tend to be a cheater. (Yeah, I know, there are ‘Promise Keepers’)

For people who have children, the issue of ‘cheating around’ takes a level of unprecedented and serious bearing. What the hell do you do? I’m young myself and haven’t been in such a situation, so I don’t have an answer. I’d likely tell the woman off, go to court and go from there. I’d at least leave myself with some dignity by not letting the situation be exploited by others.

So that’s where we are today, folks. We have a society where divorce rates are up, people can’t stay committed, and our media thinks it’s a good idea to exploit the downfall of society by encouraging stuff like this to reach every household, in detail. The problem of course with that is the fact that when something gets saturated and a ‘household item’ in popular culture, it tends to become more accepted as a norm for society and eventually a mainplace trend.

Soon we just may reach a point where conversations will sound like, “What, you’ve been married for 3 years and haven’t cheated yet? Weirdo, let’s fix that.” Such is the natural conclusion of a lifestyle that’s largely shaped by a media with diminishing ethics and without good bearing.

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